It’s customary to take your shoes off at home in many parts of the world.
For instance, in many Asian households it’s often shoes off at the door. There’s also a no shoes rule when walking around indoors at home.
Shoes | KAWS: Companionship in the Age of Loneliness (1)
Having grown up in a Chinese household, this is a habit that comes naturally to me. As a kid, I’d come home, take my shoes off and place them on the shoe rack by the door. Today this is still what I do every time I come home.
This month* marks seven years since I started this blog. This year marks a turning point in my life where I’ve thought about quitting blogging and even writing altogether.
It seems my relationship with blogging has hit the seven year itch.
Over time I’ve blogged less and less. When I started blogging, I blogged weekly. Then fortnightly. Over the last two years I’ve put up one post a month and scaled back freelance writing work. That made me realise, the less time you spend on something, the more time you have for yourself and the more time to think.
All my life I’ve never liked using the dishwasher. Washing up by hand after cooking for one or after a meal with five others at home is something I much rather do and in fact, do every single day.
Most people around me baulk at my refusal to use the dishwasher. You eat your food in comfort at home, throw the dishes and cutlery in the dishwasher, turn it on, the mess and grime washes away. You don’t need to spend time washing up.
Garlic and Chinese Mun Shou Rice Bowl
Growing up in a traditional-minded Chinese family, the dishwasher was never used. Instead it was used as a stacking and drying rack for clean dishes. These days I use the dishwasher to store my empty work lunch containers and banish plates that I never use.
Either way when we don’t belong often that means we feel different. The feeling of not fitting in comes in different forms. For instance, we don’t get along with family and never seem to say much around our parents or siblings. Can’t identify with ‘where you are from’ or our heritage. Don’t get the latest trends or TV series everyone is so into.
For those of us who have reason to not celebrate our birthday and don’t want a fuss on this day, we might not shout from the rooftops about turning a year older. We might even go to great lengths to avoid drawing attention to our birthday in a time where many think you should be entitled to some special treat.