Balancing Reading and Writing As A Writer

Reading is a big part of writing. As a writer, naturally you read a fair bit.

Take writing a non-fiction book for example: it calls for a lot of reading alongside a lot of writing on a chosen topic. How do you balance reading and writing?

Or in other words: how do you fit in reading as you write? And make it work for your writing?

I contemplate this as I read for and write my first book. A book telling the stories of navigating cultural in-betweeness as I live my dreams as a writer. Countless nights the desire to write about being at peace as an outsider calls to me. At the same time a curiosity incessantly beckons towards reading and understanding this elusive thing called belonging…

Some months ago at the beginning of the year, I sit and look around my desk up late. My gaze drifts over scribbling notebooks scattered to the left. Stacks of printed articles resting haphazardly upon each other in the middle. Kindle to the right. I wonder where to start. The organised chaos of a writer’s life… To read, or to write…

I wasn’t always this somewhat focused about reading and writing. Many, many moons ago, an impetuous me fresh out of college barrelled headfirst into writing a non-fiction book. With barely an outline but naively thinking I knew a lot about the world, I cobbled together 40,000 words on third culture kid struggles. I lived on an insatiable fire fanning just writing.

Reading all that I wrote back, it sounded like a rant. So eager to write, my brazen ego ignored reading. A lack lingered within me as a writer.

Reading is important when it comes to writing. When you write non-fiction, you read to learn and acquaint with what you want to share, discerning what seems fact and what needs more reflection. You write. You stop writing. Maybe then read for perspective or inspiration.

Reading complements writing. Writing complements reading.

Through reading, you get a feel of the art of telling stories and literary techniques. Alongside writing non-fiction, reading illuminates the finesses of carving deeper interpretations on what’s around us and which speak to others. In this sense, you read to comprehend the craft of writing and the impact words can have.

‘Reading is the creative centre of a writer’s life… Being swept away by a combination of great story and great writing is art of every writer’s necessary formation. You cannot hope to sweep someone else away by the force of your writing until it has been done to you.’

– Stephen King, On Writing (2020)

A distinct topic or goal in your non-fiction endeavours guides you towards a balance between reading and writing. Mapping out each chapter and the narrative arc helps as well. There is much to read out there, from the lessons of the past to the motions of the present. When you set a writing focus, chances are you become a bit more mindful on what you read to inform your writing.

Naturally, reading widely is a big part of researching and writing non-fiction. You might read books. Academic papers. News articles. And more books. The reading feels endless.

Reading lists come in handy to keep track of important and potential reads as you write non-fiction. You write down things to read, giving yourself a chance to return. Time for reading, time for writing.

Up late at my desk, I go over my book outline, an outline for each chapter, my latest attempt at book writing. A thought sparks in my mind. I entertain it with Google and stumble across more reads, as usual. I scrawl yet another thing to read in one of the notebooks.

The piles of articles on my desk stare at me. I stare back at them. Which one first… I linger. I reach for the one I’ve been longing to re-read, the academic paper and Baumeister classic The Need to Belong.

Reading what you are excited about inherently adds momentum to the writing process. When you enjoy what you read, the more inspired you might feel about writing. Granted, you can’t simply read your interests when writing non-fiction. Some books you may judge by their covers. But leaning into the curiosity of discovery might just make uncertain reads all the more enticing.

Such intrigue for reading might be the motivation inspiring you to fit it around writing and the busyness of the mundane. It could be ten minutes reading over breakfast, or an hour before bed – on top of reading for leisure. So scheduling time for reading makes it a more seamless part of the writing process.

Up late at my desk, I think back to attempt #2 at writing my book on belonging. It was years after the first try, having read widely on the nuances of cultural in-betweenness. This time with chapters sort of planned out. I wrote. Again, so eager to write. Reading it all back, I wasn’t able to sense much of a story out of my words. Miffed, I walked away from book writing again.

When writing a book, some occasions call for rebalancing and changing your reading and writing routines. Sometimes you might read and write concurrently. Other times you might only read and put writing aside. And other times you might only write.

How much should I read? How much should I write?

It depends on where you are at in your writer’s journey. And each writing project has a life of its own.

Notably not all authors plan, research and read a great deal when they write a book, non-fiction or otherwise. Different writers have different approaches. Also creativity often calls in the moment. Some writers run with a brilliant spark and write a brilliant book overnight. For other writers, reading tends to that creative spark, lends it thought and you rise from there.

Deep down I feel I am the latter kind of writer. Re-reading Baumeister, my attention fixates on a highlighted sentence: ‘The need to belong is something other than a need for affiliation.’ I mull it over. Ponder if it aligns with my thoughts on this book chapter I’m wrestling with or tempts me towards a tangent to run away with altogether… Hmmm

Somewhere amidst perusing the depths of where reading can take you, I feel a patience within me as a writer that wasn’t there all those years ago. How did that come about? Immersed in between piles of papers and books around my desk, I sense creating something authentic that speaks to you as much as it does to others takes thought and time.

I sense finding meaning as a writer is more than just about achieving the idea of publishing a book.

The challenges you face as a writer could be what propels you to change your reading and writing routines, or choose one over the other in the moment. In the words of Viktor Frankl, ‘When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.’ It’s not about changing to accept what is. Rather we can change our habits, mindset and choices to take the next step.

Sharing your message clearly and making it relatable is one challenge of writing non-fiction. Reading often offers clarity here. You read to define your message: to make sense of complex ideas, to know where you stand and be convincing in your truth. The detail lies in what you read and in reading what you’ve written.

Then again, reading is a double edge sword. You feel inspired when you read. Conversely you might think about where your writing fits in among everything you’ve read and will read. Caught in between (actively) consuming as a reader and creating as a writer.

How can I write in a way that others can understand and relate to? I often muse over this while either stuck on crafting my next sentence or lost in yet another read. And the thought of never actually putting a book out there feels very real to me. It’s a feeling that comes and goes – yet each time an invitation to explore and grow in the unknown. Such is often creativity: inspired by what you read or see that touches you, inspired to tirelessly create something out of nothing.

‘It is possible that each delay, disappointment, or fear may be utilised as a means for greater insight into the mysterious mechanisms of the psyche, and that through these experiences we may gradually learn to perceive the meaning of our own lives.’

– Liz Greene, Saturn: A New Look at an Old Devil (2011)

As you research and write non-fiction, some texts take longer to read. Some texts take longer to wrap your head around. Some take multiple reads before the concepts drop.

Accordingly being a writer often calls for surrendering to seasons of slowness. In slowness, like part of a slow writer lifestyle, you do less creatively – refining your scope on what you read and write. Reassess the balance of both. Temper your focus in each of reading and writing, each for more immersive experiences.

As you pace yourself reading to write non-fiction, you ask deeper questions about what you read. Encounter your message and topic in a different light. In turn there could be something meaningful in taking away what you lacked awareness of, a wonderment that is writing more consciously. You feel the language of what has been written – a finer semblance of inspiring enjoyment, connection or insight in the reader.

It’s easy to get swept away by the inspiration to write. Or the desire to read. In slowing down, you embrace a calmness to make reading and writing work together.

As I read The Need to Belong, some parts don’t make sense to me… For now, I guess. No rush. No one is an expert on anything.

I sit at my desk, put aside the paper and wonder what tomorrow may bring. Not sure when writing the next book chapter will be. Not sure what time it is up late. But it doesn’t matter. I live in the moment as a writer, one change at a time in how I read and write.

Writing isn’t a linear process. Sometimes you read. Sometimes you write. And somewhere in between, maybe you’ll find where you’re at right now.

How do you balance reading and writing? When do you read and write?

143 responses to “Balancing Reading and Writing As A Writer”

  1. Writing to Freedom Avatar

    It seems you have a very deliberate and thoughtful approach to writing Mabel. I read much more than I read, but I don’t aspire to write a book or be a published author. Kudos on consciously growing as a person and writer. I suspect we each need to find and create our own process, tailored to our goals as a writer.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It sounds like you really like reading, Brad. Sounds like you have read a lot of books and learned a lot from reading. Such great thoughts from you there – growing as a person and creating our own process. Goals can help us stay on track and grow. Other times we also grow and learn from being relaxed, open and ready to explore what’s out there. Hope you are doing well. It is really love to see you again, Brad 😊

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      1. Writing to Freedom Avatar

        Yes, I enjoy and read a lot Mabel. May you and your writing flourish. 😊

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          Thanks, Brad. I will keep reading and writing. May you enjoy your trip. Looking forward to seeing you and your part of the world again 😊

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              1. Writing to Freedom Avatar

                You’re most welcome. 😊

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                1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

                  Hope you are having a good time on your break, Brad 😊❤

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  3. balroop2013 Avatar

    I agree with you Mabel. Reading and writing are complementary. Reading inspires us, as well as acquaints us with various styles of writing. It also helps us in understanding what is not a compelling style. I write in the morning and read in the evening and at night. Your approach to writing is spot on! Wishing you all the best.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I really like your perspective, Balroop, tht reading helps us in understanding what is not a compelling style. Not all styles will work within a genre, and then there is writing that just doesn’t make sense. I hope you continue to enjoy reading in the morning, evening and night. And keep writing too, Wishing you well, my friend 😊❤

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  4. Gary Avatar

    I do so much reading for work that I don’t find reading for leisure pleasurable anymore. I now prefer to listen to books. Fiction and non-fiction audiobooks are great.

    I think if I wanted to write, it would be different, but these days, I’m happy to have my glasses off my face and to look at things other than words on a page or screen.

    More power to you, Mabel. I hope you continue to complement your reading with writing and your writing with reading. While you do, I’ll cook a steak and enjoy it. 😊

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      There’s only so much you can read before you want to stop reading and do something else entirely. Audiobooks are a good way to read alongside other tasks.

      Great you make time to look at others things than words or pages – so it sounds like you are very focused when cooking a delicious steak. Keep cooking your steaks. And I will keep writing, Gaz 😊

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  5. Lani Avatar

    I truly believe there is no ‘one size fits all’ approach. I read and write everyday. This year, I separated my gratitude practice and my writing practice, so I do both. I write ten things I’m grateful for and then I write 500 words. These are non-negotiables, baring unusual circumstances.

    And I read (just about) every night before bed. I try not to read for inspiration, but rather pleasure and if inspiration should arrive, then great, but at this point in my writing life, I know when I need to push or sit back. And lately it’s been a lot of sitting back!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I really enjoyed reading your comment. It gave me something to think about on our writing practices. Sounds like you focus on one thing in your gratitude practice, and on another thing in writing – though they both involve writing. Writing is the medium.

      I hope you continue to enjoy reading for pleasure, Lani! At the moment I am more of reading for writing, and I do wish I had all the time in the world to read for leisure 😄 It is lovely to see you again. Hope you are doing well 😊❤

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  6. festo_sanjo Avatar

    This is such a profound post Kwong… I too, hopes to be a non-fiction writer someday… and you know what every niche or topic I wanna dive into, is sort of having a large spectrum of knowledge or keeps evolving as I read various sources…so I become a chameleon changing my perspectives simultaneously…it’s something that I grow out from continously reading and widening my perspectives.

    You’re so wise and non delusional in your projects Kwong, i can feel that in every article and posts from you…and you nailed it perfectly that we should have balance and taking our time, slowly gaining perspectives in what we read and write. It surely depends on person to person, meshing creativity and knowledge is so vital…you said about reading your book and some parts not making sense! Well it’s okay don’t see it as weakness but strength because now your in a quest to make something magnificent. Such a wonderful post Kwong, keep having balance my friend, but most of all learn to follow your instincts when nothing makes sense.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Adapting and evolving is a skill, and it can be a strength. There is so many niche topics out there, so much you can learn…sometimes the hard part is knowing which one to go explore first. You will keep writing and write many things in the times to come, Sanjo. You are already writing on this blog , quite a few things so deep and profound.

      Honestly I feel that I gain perspective as I both read and write. It doesn’t always come quick. Sometimes it’s really slow for me trying to make sense of my thoughts or words in a book. But definitely not all things need to make sense. We talked about conditioning in your other post – and in typical life we are conditioned to ‘have an answer’, ‘to know’ and to not know it means being ‘beneath’, ‘unworthy’ or even ‘shameful’. But to not know is a strength, especially if there is the openness to not judge and to learn. Sometimes it is your intuition, having faith and believing in a bit of magic will take you far. It is a pleasure to have connected with you, Sanjo. I hope you have been doing well over there. Keep reading and writing, my friend 😊🙏

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      1. festo_sanjo Avatar

        So true Kwong. To not know is strength, because then we let our curiosity lead… you’re so welcome my friend

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          We let our curiosity lead, and our heart guide us along the way too. Appreciate you, Sanjo 🙏

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  7. Mallee Stanley Avatar

    I get the feel from this post that you’ve read enough and it’s time to just write. Organize the readings as to where they might fit, then put them aside and don’t worry about perfecting the work until the first draft is complete.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I think so too, Mallee. I have organised readings and theories within each chapter. Sometimes as I write, I read again – though for most part I keep going. The other thing, though, is I’ve been reading to transform the way I write. That is also quite the journey together with writing a book. Thank you, Mallee. Appreciate your presence 😊❤

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  8. Jean Avatar

    While I agree for anyone who writes whole essays, poems or books, reading other stuff is complementary, I must admit I don’t do huge amount of complementary reading to what I blog.

    One of my 2 degrees is a BA in English Literature. After all the reading, critical analysis and essays, my brain was exhausted. I actually don’t read many novels. My book reading has been non-fiction in the past few decades. Weird eh? I do light research for some of my blog posts. But otherwise, I simply write for my blog, inspired by certain experiences and my observations for the reader.

    Wish you lots of luck for your book writing. I’m sure you will reveal to us what it will be about.

    I know my rom-com niece novel writer with focus on interracial love, seems to churn out more than 1 book annually. She has indicated to her rom-com international community, that at minimum she does tends to write for several hrs. daily and does map out an outline in advance. I admire her self-discipline and addressing the business back-end also — promoting her novels, reviewing/selecting book cover illustrators, etc. She is also active in local rom-com writers’ group in Canada and also internationally.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It sounds like you did a lot of work for your two degrees. Reading, analysing what you read and reflection takes a lot of work, especially academically. So naturally maybe you wanted a break from it all. It’s fascinating how people usually consider reading non-fiction as more unusual, and reading fiction is the norm. I think maybe it’s because reading non-fiction takes more focus and you can’t daydream and let your imagination run like fiction.

      Thanks, Jean. I am well on the way writing my book. I think I got something good going, especially a solid structure to refer to and moving forward.

      Your rom-com niece always sounds like she is writing and putting out books. Good on her. She has certainly got it going as writer and has a niche too, and active in her writers’ group. It sounds like she engages and fully-hands on in all the stages of the writing and publishing process – which is, fantastic and she must have great organisational skills. Hope you are enjoying Summer, Jean. It is very nice to see you 😊

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      1. Jean Avatar

        Given her STEM background (geotechnical engineering), it’s easy for her to do some data analysis on sales, etc. also. My best wishes for great completion of your book. Is it going to be self-published or?

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          Your niece sounds like an all-rounded. Great to have a variety of skills and the ability to apply them. Thanks, Jean. I have always wanted to self-publish my book and I am still leaning that way 😊

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          1. Jean Avatar

            Niece has 30 published books. Some are novellas. She does have a few titles that have been published by established publishers. Rest are self-published.

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            1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

              Congratulations to your niece for publishing quite a few books. Amazing she has been published through publishers and on her own. It’s a lot of work writing and publishing – but can be fulfilling in many ways.

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              1. Jean Avatar

                We’ll see how things fare in a few yrs. It’s tough and competitive.

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                1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

                  Wishing your niece a well and inspiration for writing. Writing has its phases ❤

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  9. Peter Grey Avatar

    Interesting topic Mabel! Writing a non-fiction book can not be done without a lot of reading. It can help you in your thinking proces, perhaps even to answer the question: what is it I want to write about. Narrow down the topic(s). The perspective. The goal. Do you want it to be a theoretical book? A personal story? A combination? I can imagine you opt for the latter. When I wrote my novel I read a lot before I had one line on the screen. (It was in fact the third or fourth version of the story, all of them at total disaster, and a wiser person would have skipped the idea of continuing but I really wanted to tell the story.) The reading provided a lot of background information, wich I happily integrated in the novel. It also gave me the idea of the plot, the story, something to give the book a direction. But what really got me started was stepping away from me, and although the story was based on personal experiences I finally was able to look at the characters from a much needed distance. I then stopped reading and started writing, and only when I needed specific information or facts, I read again, and only that what I then wanted to know. Unfortunately that meant I wasn’t reading for leisure either, but luckely that changed after I finished my novel, now I’m reading again like I used to do – a lot. Now I understand I wrote fiction, more or less, and you want a non-fiction book. That indeed ís a difference. I hesitate to put it, but perhaps consider the possibility that the reading is an excuse to not write. I know from earlier and much appreciated posts of yours that you are a detail-person. Detail and precision is inevitable, certainly when writing non-fiction. But it starts with the bigger picture. When you have decided what your book is going to tell the reader (and/or maybe yourself) you could read more deliberate, make notes of what you want to use, organize that into chapters, and – and I agree with the reaction of Mallee above – start writing. Anyway, I’m rambling on far to long already. I really liked this post Mabel, as I alsways do.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It is lovely to see you and be in your presence, Peter. You always have something insightful to say, and again you get me thinking. So agree with you that reading can help narrow down what book to write about. You are spot on, I am writing a book that is both theoretical and anecdotal. A blend, a kind of writing that some call creative non-fiction.

      You put in a lot of effort to write your novel, going through different seasons writing it. Though you feel some of what you wrote were disasters like your third and fourth versions of the story, they are part of the process – helping you realise what you don’t want to write. At the end of the day, I think it’s more fulfilling to write and publish what you are passionate about, than putting something out there that you can’t stand behind or aren’t confident about. You mentioned something important which is having distance from your writing and story. Distance helps you see your writing more objectively, and you get a better idea if your story makes sense. And I think giving yourself distance from your writing and yourself as a writer gets easier as time goes on.

      I wish I had more time to read for leisure. There are so many books I want to read! But these days I mostly read for writing my book and studying. I am also reading about different writing styles, exploring transforming how I write. Sometimes I like to read for my book so much, that I rather leave writing for another time…a balance needs to be found. I think I’ve got a good story going with my book, both for myself and the reader. It’s mapped out and I think I have to continue writing to see where it leads.

      Appreciate your visit as always, Peter. I hope you enjoy reading for leisure and you are doing well 😊

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  10. Behind the Story Avatar
    Behind the Story

    I think you’re right about slowing down.

    As writers, we need to read and write, but I would add two other things: thinking and choosing.

    Every day we need to step back from what we have read or written and take some time to think about it. Take some silent time to ponder. Does anything I have read today give me an idea for what I’m writing? Or should I set it aside for now, consider it as a general broadening of my knowledge.

    We have to make choices about the subject we’re going to concentrate on in both reading and writing. What do we care about? What is our intent regarding our current project? When should I read more for my project? When have I read enough.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I love your comment, Nicki. You add something very valuable to the writing process In your own words: thinking and choosing. Those are excellent questions. Anything we read can be inspiring, maybe now or at a later point.

      For me, choosing what I am passionate about and cared enough about took a long time. Now that I have, I’ve found it has been easier in shaping the focus and story of my book. It’s important to remember that you can’t write everything you are interested in at once, especially with non-fiction or creative non-fiction. Depth over breadth without losing sight of the bigger picture. Thanks for stopping by, Nicki. Hope you are doing well 😊❤

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  11. arv! Avatar

    I agree. Reading and writing complement each other. Unfortunately, it is hard to find time to read. he “digital distractions” like videos, movies, etc which are easily available on mobile phone has reduced most people’s reading habits. The young generation today prefer not to read newspaper rather they consume news through Instagram page. This is a trend. Of course, there are many readers who will not give up reading. I find it difficult to read on many occasions because even though I have time but mentally I’m not free. It’s a challenge.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      This is an excellent point that you raised, Arv. We live in time where there are digital distractions, and a lot of it is visual and short-form content is becoming more popular. So I wonder if reading especially reading a book is starting to lose its appeal.

      I hope you get some time for yourself to relax at least. It’s such a busy and overloaded world we are living in. Mentally it can take its toll and understandably you don’t always want to read. I read for writing my book, improving writing skills and studying, so it leaves almost no time for me to read for leisure these days.

      Hope all has been well with you, Arv 😊

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      1. arv! Avatar

        There are people who are regular with books. Some have moved on to Kindle. I think it is new additions, the new generation that we are losing. Digital content esp. the videos are quite engaging and engrossing.

        I agree with what you said about taking out time. You understand it so well. I also feel one needs to be in right frame of mind to read and enjoy books. Isn’t it?

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          I so agree with you that one needs to be in the right frame of mind to read and enjoy books. For instance, when I am tired, I don’t usually want to read dense non-fiction.

          I have a Kindle and I find it very convenient for reading on the go. And you can highlight and make notes as you read. Then again, nothing like reading a hardcopy book in your hands.

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          1. arv! Avatar

            True, everything has its own advantages and disadvantages. I think books have an old world charm. Technology and formats will come and go, a physical copy of a book defies all this.

            Do you still retain many books?

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            1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

              You said it very well, that ‘books have an old world charm’. Couldn’t agree more. I do have quite a few books, many of which I bought years ago. I do declutter my books every now and then. Some no longer serve me, and others I will always cherish 😊

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              1. arv! Avatar

                I agree if you buy books on a regular basis, it needs a declutter.

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                1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

                  Yes, Some books will be meaningful. Other books might resonate better with others 😊

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  12. AutumnAshbough Avatar

    I love reading, but being a writer does make me a much pickier reader. I’m much more likely to put a book down when it’s obvious the writer didn’t do the research. Bad writing is much more noticeable, and so is overwritten prose. And of course it’s very frustrating to see those books published and–especially without a decent copy editor! On the other hand I really, really appreciate a well-crafted, well-researched story.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You sure know what you want to read. I do like to give books a chance, trying to read as much as possible. But like you, when the book isn’t written well I might put it away and find something else to read. Reading non-fiction, sometimes I find myself really snippets of a book first, then coming back to it later if it’s relevant to what I’m writing.

      A book well-crafted, well-researched and well-done deserves another read 😊❤

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  13. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

    Your thoughts and your posts Mabel are always well thought out, showing us the deeper currents lurking beneath such simple acts as reading and writing.
    The quote you gave when
    “Re-reading Baumeister, my attention fixates on a highlighted sentence: ‘The need to belong is something other than a need for affiliation.’
    I think in away sums up, why we write, and read… We do feel that need to belong, to relate and find our common ground with. whether we realise it or not, we are all searching to find our niche to belong, to fit in., and that validation which comes from reading other peoples words on their experiences etc.. Helps us see we are not alone in our efforts.
    I had to smile as you described your desk, what to start first, read or write… I am a bit like that, what to start, paint, sew, read, lol… instead I will walk in the garden and weed, pick dead heads…
    A story is brewing in my head right now about the dragon I recently painted. at the moment they are jumbled confused and wont commit to paper… But they are there.. Waiting for that right time to emerge…
    I have recently put together a scrap book of my old poems.. That was another phase of myself… Writing poetry… Now I hardly write any.. I think Mabel, what ever you choose first… Reading or writing, you will follow your instincts… And I feel when we each of us learn to trust our inner guidance, we are being guided down the right path when we follow our hearts.
    The time will present itself, for the words to be written… just as time will be made for words that are meant to be read…
    What is more important are the words you believe, and hold in your heart..
    Much word my lovely friend… Good night from England… and I thank you for our lovely conversations ❤ xx ❤

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You have astute observations and speak from the heart, Sue. I love it when you say this: ‘Helps us see we are not alone in our efforts.’ A very good reason as to why people read. We read to find out more about the world, and in turn find out more about our place in it and so where we belong. For some of us, reading is a way to relax and find comfort – and the reader reading to know that they are a part of something.

      Now I smiled at your description of thinking about whether you want to paint or sew or read, and then meandering around your garden as a detour. When undecided or confused, sometimes the best thing to do is to get moving and do something else altogether 😄 It sounds like your mind and creative vision are fighting themselves over how the dragon you recently painted should take form in story. But as you said, the right moment will emerge for this to happen…. Timing is everything. Trust in timing and surrender.

      I am someone who likes to have different things going at once. Reading, writing, studying something…and I think my challenge is to not spread myself too thin and have moments of focus. Which has certainly helped a lot this year and progress on my book. The heart is important in leading the way. Trusting your intuition and aligning with your authentic heart is how we stay true to ourselves.

      Always appreciate your visit, thoughts and time, and each of our conversations, dear Sue. I hope you are enjoying the last of Summer in England with sunshine days. Many hugs across the many miles to you 😊🙏✨❤

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      1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

        Thank you Mabel… And you are right not to over stretch yourself, in too many things all at once… 🙂
        The garden is my escape mechanism, to clear my head, and focus. .. And again you are spot on, that when we are aligned, trusting our intuition, being authentic and true to our hearts.. Then all things will fall into place in the right order at the right time..

        My Dragon essay I know will do just that… I sat with pen and paper today, and nothing would come…. Yet inside the words I know are bursting to be told… But Like you, I trust the process, and our best pieces of writing always come when we are in the flow of the moment.. When nothing is forced …

        Thank you again so much Mabel.. and I wish you well in your writing of your book.. As you say goodbye to your Winter and say hello to Spring, as we step into our Autumn, enjoying the warmer sunnier days while they are still here..

        Much love my dear friend…. Take care of you.. ❤ xx ❤ xx ✨🙏

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          I think our world has glorified multi-tasking. Yes it’s efficient but it is so easy to overdo and overstretch yourself. I have to remind myself to pace myself reading, writing, and everything else I desire to do.

          Your garden is your escape, your safe place, your haven… From knowing it through your blog, it seems like a place where you can just be, let the intuition flow and the heart speaks. It sounds like it is not time yet for your Dragon essay. Sometimes you feel like you are writing your story in your head but it just doesn’t come out on paper. I have a lot of faith there will be a right time for your next story to flow. Timing is a remarkable thing.

          Thank you for your well wishes, Sue. My book will be written in due time. No rush, and trust in the process and timing. Enjoy the last of your Summer for now and welcome in a new Season. Many hugs across the many miles to you, and you take care too ❤🙏

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          1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

            You are so right Mabel.. Timing IS everything.. and I haven’t forced my Dragon story to come.. Its lurking somewhere in the grey matter lol… ready to hatch .. 🙂 And oh you are spot on with the trying to write on paper what is swimming inside… It just doesn’t want to work when its not meant to be..

            May we both go with our flow Mabel, as we pace ourselves in our hobbies and everyday lives..
            Thank you, about the garden…. Today it was so windy here a limb of a small tree I have in the garden broke today.. So no garden sitting today…
            Enjoy your week Mabel and your writing, and reading… Lots of love and take care.. xxx ❤ ❤ ❤ xx

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              Certainly, trust the process and go with the flow. With your Dragon story, it will be born when it is ready. And we will all be waiting for your words of wisdom 🐉 Putting something away that yous started isn’t giving up, rather more of giving in to timing.

              I hope your trees stay well and may you get to sit in your garden again soon. Much love to you and take care, dear Sue 😊❤

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              1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

                Thank you Mabel. Much love to you enjoy your weekend xx 😘 ❤️

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                  Thanks, Sue. May you find inspiration to write and trust the timing. Enjoy you week ahead 😊❤

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                  1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

                    Some words were given and written, not all, but the will soon appear with the painting
                    I wrote late last evening, now I need to see if they make sense before I publish 😄 as they too came in a blur lol 😆 very fast, and long. Maybe too long for a post. But I trust that which flows. Xx ❤️
                    Much love ❤️ Mabel xx ❤️

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                      It is wonderful you shared your painting of the dragon. It is amazing and arrived in divine timing. Things can be a bit of a blur. Sometimes it’s a bit like that when you trust intuition and timing as it guides you to where you need to be. Thank you for sharing, dear Sue. Much love, inspiration and creativity to you, dear Sue 😊🙏❤

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                    2. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

                      Thank you Mabel, so happy you enjoyed her, and yes ALL is Divine timing… 🙂 We just all have to TRUST… and Let the rest fall into place..
                      Much love right back at you Mabel.. and thank you again my friend xx ❤

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                      Yes, Trust and things will fall into place. You are welcome, Sue. Wishing you well for this season ahead, my friend. Hugs 😊❤

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  14. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

    Oh dear, I wrote you several long paragraphs, and then sent, and they appear to have vanished.. Maybe I took too long to type it and it timed out, this is happening more and more to me lately… Never mind.. It may have gone into your spam folder in your blog..
    Its too late here to try and repeat what I said… Good night my friend xx Love to you xx

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      I really appreciate the time you took to share your thoughts, Sue. It is always appreciated. Your comment went to Trash. I have retrieved it and now your words and love are shared with the world 🙏

      You gave me much to think about. Will come back to you soon. Much love ❤

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      1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

        Oh that’s brilliant you retrieved the comment thank you Mabel xx 😘 😊

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          You are welcome, Sue. Really appreciate your time here. Many hugs your way ❤

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          1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

            That is likewise on my blog also Mabel… xx ❤

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  15. equinoxio21 Avatar

    Belonging is a choice isn’t it? 😉
    Now, reading and writing? They’re two separate, parallel universes.
    I read every day. at night. No matter what. Even if only a few pages before going to sleep. It’s my way of cutting off the day.
    Writing? Works best in the morning for me. 2, 3, 4 hours at the most. Remember I write the book or the story in my head first… I don’t edit until the story/book is finished, I’d get stuck…
    When can we READ a few pages?
    Jumpa lagi Kawanku.

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      I like how you describe reading and writing, ‘They’re two separate, parallel universes.’. It really got me thinking, that there are probably many other things or people we can describe this way…

      It sounds like you have made reading a habit, a part of your routine. Writing for two hours or more is a lot of writing. I think I am the opposite of you when it comes to writing. Sometimes I write stories in my head but for some reason, it’s hard to translate into words on paper/computer and I get stuck. I really find it easier to get a plan and some ideas out on paper or in front of me first, and work from there.

      READ a few pages? Honestly I don’t know. Then again, I didn’t know the story for my book for the longest time and then one day, I knew the story just like that. Timing works in mysterious ways Trust in the timing ✨

      It is evening over here, Kawanku. So Dulces sueños, Peng You. Jumpa lagi, Amigo 😊❤

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      1. equinoxio21 Avatar

        Parallel universes. You might remember in Math that parallel lines meet at the infinite. A rule I love. One can apply it to many things.
        I suspect one has to find the right… “technique” or approach to one’s writing. What works for me will probably not work for others. Glad you the story came to you “just like that.” I suspect it’s the best way. Let it come to you. Then write a plan and start to write…
        Morning here. It’s full Bulan. Sweet dreams too Peng Yu. Jumpa lagi Amiga. 💕🤗

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          I haven’t thought of the parallel lines and infinite rule in a while. The right technique might work for someone and not for you. But the right technique might also work only during a certain moment in time. ‘Let it come to you.’ Exactly. I will work at it, but ultimately have to trust in the process too. I think that can also be applied to all parts of our life too.

          It was full moon earlier this week, yes. I am not sure if it’s called full Bulan in that way 😄 Dulces sueños, Peng You. Enjoy your week, Amigo 😊❤

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          1. equinoxio21 Avatar

            Terimah kasi kawanku…
            Likewise. 💕🤗

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              Jumpa lagi, kawanku. Amigo. Peng You. Dulce sueños 🤗💕🌙🙏

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  16. restlessjo Avatar

    Well, actually finding time to read posts such as this is a challenge, Mabel. What will benefit me? What won’t? What can I identify with? Life is a series of questions, it sometimes seems. We each go at our own pace and hopefully can find the time we need to read, digest… and write! Enjoy the process, as you’re doing!

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      You are wise, Jo. Each of us has our own pace and have our own interests. We’re always meant to be where we are. Sometimes we read, sometimes we write and other times we enjoy other parts of life. Appreciate you stopping by, Jo. Thank you for the visit and I hope you get to go outdoors for a walk soon 😊❤

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      1. restlessjo Avatar

        Sending hugs, Mabel. I’m a bit impatient sometimes but no harm meant 🤗🩷

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          We have that in common. I’m also a bit impatient sometimes. But always learning to be patient. Much love to you 😊❤

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  17. Jacqui Murray Avatar

    As usual, I find so much in common between your experiences and mine–impossible to believe! For instance, your first madly-written non-fic book, a quick write from the sounds of it. Mine too! Though mine was a how-to based on my daughter and very upbeat. “The organised chaos of a writer’s life“–I love that and cherish it. With kids grown and gone, life can get too un-chaotic, but not writing.

    Thanks for another great post.

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      It really does sound like we have things in a common as writers, Jacqui. It sounds like your first madly-written book was not too bad! I feel how-to’s are generally easier to write, especially when you know what to say. Then still can be chaotic as writing will be writing. Thanks for stopping by, Jacqui 😊❤

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  18. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

    Hopefully you received my last comment in reply to yours Mabel.. Love and Blessings my friend… xx ❤

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      I did receive your last comment, Sue. Again it took a walk to the Trash. Yours is not the only one. It seems to be happening a bit of late. I will get to it. Thanks for letting me know, dear fried. Blessings for your week ahead ❤

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      1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

        No worries Mabel… It happens… I have had to rescue perfect comments in my blog trash too… Sending LOVE and Hugs for your new week xx ❤

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          You are so kind to rescue comments, Sue. Hugs right back at you ❤

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          1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

            I found myself spammed many years ago, that every single comment I made went into peoples spam folder.. I ended up emailing bloggers asking them to look as well as get in touch with the Happy Engineers, It took time to sort out and was so frustrating .. I think it was because at that time I would make many comments in an evening.. And the AI bots thought I was Spam.. or HAM.. lol 😉 hehe… Thankfully its only when I seem to make longer comments these days…… and only rarely.. Sending Lots of love Mabel.. ❤ xx

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              You do have a sense of humour about you, Sue. It must have been frustrating to be treated like spam and ham by the Spam filter. And every comment too I had a similar experience a few years go. Same as you. I would read and comment on a blog like I always do. My comment would go to Spam and I emailed the bloggers to unspam me. After a while, it sorted itself out thankfully.

              Sometimes we just have to work with what we have been dealt with. Wishing you a wonderful weekend and enjoy your Summer that is still lingering 😊

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              1. Sue Dreamwalker Avatar

                In todays world a sense of humour is essential lol 😆 😂 😄 😅 🤣

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                  Keep being you, Sue 😄💕

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  19. chattykerry Avatar

    I write much better when I read frequently. It doesn’t matter if it is fiction, non-fiction or a magazine. While reading your post, I realized that I haven’t been reading enough recently.

    Must-do-better. You are so perceptive, Mabel. Brava!

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      I hope you get to read more. You came over and read my blog, wonderful to add to your reading 😀 I’ve been reading so much for writing my book and studying, and I miss reading for leisure. Can be hard to balance it all .

      Appreciate you stopping by, Kerry. Hope you are doing well and wishing you time to read ❤

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      1. chattykerry Avatar

        Thank you, Mabel. I wish you happy reading time, too!! 📚

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          I do hope to read more, and have more time to read for leisure! Wishing you happy reading time too, Kerry 😊❤

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  20. Ally Bean Avatar

    I enjoyed this post. It has made me think about how I’m doing things now, what I could do better in the sense of being truer to myself. I don’t balance reading and writing well, I seem to go all in for one or the other. I block my time and this means I’m productive, but also locks me into a mindset that says “it’s writing time now” or “it’s reading time now” instead of allowing for a more organic, perhaps integrated, approach to both.

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      Thanks, Ally. You are brave to admit, ‘I don’t balance reading and writing well’. It can be hard when you want to do one or the other – or it just turns out that way. I must say you weave humour into your writing and blogs very well 😄

      Time blocking is effective for me but like you said, it impedes an organic flow – where the magic of creativity can manifest and truly shine… Such is the writer’s life 😊❤

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  21. dgkaye Avatar

    Hi Mabel. Sounds like you’re getting well acquainted with a writer’s life, lol. I loved what you called it – The organised chaos of a writer’s life. That’s it in a nutshell. Every writer eventually establishes their own organizational system. As for writing and reading, I’m always doing both, always reading two books at same time – one novel for pleasure and another nonfiction. I get good reading time on vacations. I read more in summer. I will make the time to go outside a few days a week in the sun and read. I also read in bed at night to fall asleep (novels). Eventually, you will feel your groove. Hugs ❤

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I really liked hearing how you read, Debby. You do have a reading routine going for you. Reading in the sun during summer sounds wonderful. I wish I had more time to read for leisure. When I did a while ago, like you I read two books at the same time. Usually it will be one non-fiction and another would be re-reading something I previously enjoyed.

      Writing life is all too familiar to me I wish it was easier. But I am where I am meant to be right now. Hugs across the miles to you, Debby 😊❤

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      1. dgkaye Avatar

        You said the key words – you are meant to be where you are right now Mabel. Go you and keep us posted on your progress. Hugs flying back at you across our many miles. 🙂 ❤ xx

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          I will keep you posted on writing and book progress. It is a journey. You have been there writing and publishing your books, Debby. Very inspiring ❤

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          1. dgkaye Avatar

            Thank you Mabel. I shall look forward to your book whenever it is published. ❤

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              No thank you, Debby, for your support as always. It will be exciting when my book gets published ❤

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              1. dgkaye Avatar

                Yes it will. So do keep us posted. ❤

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                  Will do, Debby. Wishing you well and much love 🙏❤

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                  1. dgkaye Avatar

                    Thank you and back at you my friend. ❤ ❤

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                      Much love to you, Debby ❤

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                      Thank you my Lovely ❤

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  22. Content Catnip Avatar

    I love your methodical and insightful way of writing about the process of non-fiction writing Mabel. Especially the concept of slow writing and creativity, it reminds me of a coffee percolating and ideas bubbling up to the surface. Your observation about writing and reading being mutually beneficial for creativity is so true. I have to admit I read less than I used to, which is not good because it makes it harder to write, and find that the words don’t come so fluidly and easily. I really enjoyed the quotes and insights in here, especially the Stephen King one. I loved as well seeing your book stack and what you are reading. This has inspired me to get The Little Prince as I haven’t read it yet, but I have heard it’s a classic. I hope you have a great weekend Mabel, big hugs 🫂 🤗

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      I love your analogy of ‘a coffee percolating and ideas bubbling to the surface’. I think writing, and creating art in general, is often like that. Reading really does go hand-in-hand with writing. You write well on your blog.

      The book stack here are the books that I have had for a long time, and come back to re-read now and then because I enjoy them. They are some of my favourites. The Little Prince is a classic. I hope you get the chance to read it . A fairly simple read with a great message. Thank you for your lovely words, for reading and your presence, CC. Wishing you a wonderful week ahead. Big hugs back to you 😊🫂❤

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  23. roughwighting Avatar

    Ah, the dilemma. Would I rather read, or write? Honestly, reading gives me such joy. A good book takes me away from my seat and off to another world. To new people and loves. I even make great friends with some of the characters and (with a good book) I don’t want to leave them. I certainly could not write if I didn’t read. Writing is harder than reading, so I need to space out my reading and ‘make’ myself sit down and begin my words. Once I do that, it’s easy. But I’m also hard on myself, because I want whoever read my books to feel the same way – that they’ve met new people through my characters, and settled into a new place they never knew about. I love the Stephen King quote – his book ON Writing is one of my favorites. GREAT post, Mabel.

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      I absolutely love our comment, Pam. You said it so well, ‘I even make great friends with some of the characters’. A good book does that too you, be it a good fiction book with characters that develop as the plot unravels or a insightful non-fiction book with a protagonist that takes you on a deep dive on a subject matter. It can be so hard to finish reading a book for that reason.

      It is wise of you to carve time out for reading and writing. Agree that writing is harder. Writing a story is one thing, and developing your character is another thing. Then not to mention you have to think about presenting your scene. And make everything work together to and hope the reader will love. Thank you for stopping by and reading, Pam. Keep writing 😊❤

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      1. roughwighting Avatar

        Thank YOU, Mabel. And one more thing – my characters enter my dreams as well. I think they whisper what they want to do next in my stories about them. :-0

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          It sounds like you live and breathe your characters, Pam. You embody them in your dreams and then write about them. Fascinating. Maybe you have a gift here 😊🙏❤

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  24. neihtn2012 Avatar

    Recently I read The Count of Monte Cristo again, after many years. Alexandre Dumas wrote for a living, and was paid by the page, or the installment, appearing on a newspaper. He must have read a lot and had an encyclopedic a knowledge of the world and his time. However, he had to produce on a regular basis, or he literally would not eat, especially in the beginning. I hope that is not your case, Mabel!

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      That is interesting Thanks for sharing The Count of Monte Cristo and the author. Being paid by the page sounds like a good deal – certainly paid for your writing but also sounds like a fair bit of work. I don’t know where writing my book will take me. Who knows. But what I know is I enjoy writing. Thanks for stopping by, Hien 😊❤

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  25. lisa thomson-author Avatar

    Hi Mabel, great topic! Reading is incredibly important for any writer. I agree with Stephen King quote you shared. Sounds like you have a good stack to get through. Having written a non-fiction book, I can say that reading a variety of authors with different viewpoints on your topic can help give your book counter arguments, which strengthen your theme or topic.

    When the muse shows up so do we, lol. I can understand why you write late and sometimes manically. The fast writing is excellent, Mabel, because you can later edit it and narrow it down. There are always gems in the fast writing that we cannot recreate with contemplative writing. Just my humble experience.

    Sorry I’m late to your post, I didn’t receive a notification likely due to my email system. I’ll resubscribe. It’s a pleasure to read your posts. Keep plugging away on your chapters.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It is amazing how you’ve written a number of books across genres, Lisa. That is a lot of hard work. And I am sure you will write many more books. So agree with you that reading widely and reading different authors helps with writing counter-arguments. Which is important in non-fiction: different arguments help you think about your biases and what you are used to thinking of.

      When the muse shows up, it shows up. And it can disappear as sudden as it shows up. Sometimes of my fast writing is actually nonsense. Other times there are some gems in there, even if it’s just one line. Bit like writing on both adrenaline and inspiration.

      It is lovely to see you, Lisa. Thank you for resubscribing. Always appreciate you reading and your thoughts, and your presence. Much love to you and may you find inspiration to write again soon 😊❤

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  26. Dalo 2013 Avatar

    This is a great topic to discuss, Mabel. At times, for me, it is such a contradiction for me to be reading anything during the time I am writing, as I focus so much on what it is I want to say… but on the other hand, what I read often gets my thoughts and creativity flowing. Since my writing is relatively short (articles or a series of reports), I like to keep my mind clear and not clutter it with other ideas, so I generally don’t read when creating. However, prior to writing, the creativity and research are such fun to load up on 😊.

    For writing a book, I can see where the two really must go hand-in-hand, and you say it well with “Countless nights the desire to write about being at peace as an outsider calls to me. At the same time a curiosity incessantly beckons towards reading and understanding this elusive thing called belonging…” I would imagine, if I were to write a book, it would be periods of intense writing only (focusing on my thoughts) and then to relax and get another jolt of creativity, reading and research would be the fuel.

    I do miss that youthful, naive fire as a younger kid where you mentioned you had this ‘insatiable fire fanning just writing.’ And as you say, with experience (and age) comes the realization that reading complements writing, and writing complements reading. The Stephen King quote is perfect 😎. Funny, I did put together thoughts to write a book a long while ago, and it is a disjointed stack of thoughts with an even larger set of papers of research & more thoughts. I mean… it’s got a life of its own and something I fear ever looking at again 😂. Writing takes so much patience, and it is easy to run too far with one idea and get lost. I’m quite good at that…

    This is simply a wonderful post, Mabel. You tackle great questions and, more importantly, write about your process – and make it so accessible to us readers. Thank you! Your life as a writer is similar to a life doing anything – nothing is linear or straightforward, and it seems every day calls for a new approach. That is what makes it such a noble thing to do well, which sounds just like the path you’re on. Cheers to your next chapter… whenever that may be 😇!

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      I would have pegged you for someone who reads as much as you write, Randall. You seem to be so skilled at many things, from writing to photography…surely you fit everything all in somehow 😄 ‘I like to keep my mind clear and not clutter it with other ideas’ You said it very well when it comes to writing. A clear mind is necessary to craft sentences as much as it is for organic creativity to flow. When I have many ideas in my head and try to write, I usually end up getting stuck – and maybe even more stuck if I decide to read and get even more ideas. Focusing and writing out each idea one by one does help with making writing progress.

      We are all as young as we feel. I like to think that native fire is always somewhere within us, if we let it roar even if it’s just now and then. Indeed, as you say age comes with realisation that reading and writing balance each other. But we also need that fire to get going and keep going 😎 Fantastic that you have somewhat of a book in the making. It sounds like you have spent time on it…perhaps you will run back to it again and get lost in it. I have high hopes you will finish writing your book and share it with the world 😂

      Cheers to your next chapter too, Randall. And thank you for your lovely words. I am not sure where writing will take me, but I trust in the process and let’s see where we go. Thanks for stopping by. Always appreciate your presence. Hugs across the miles 😊❤

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  27. Miriam Avatar

    Keep going with your book Mabel. You are finding that balance which is so necessary as both a reader and a writer. And like you, as someone who does both, there really are no rules but yet seasons of slowness, of pondering, of stepping back but ultimately finding inspiration. And they really do complement each other. I write every night in my Gratitude Journal (though it’s usually only one page) and then I read my kindle, both fiction and non fiction. I think the key, as simple as it is, is to enjoy both! Take care and have a great weekend Mabel. xx

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      It sounds like you have a winding down routine at night, Miriam. You said it, it can be simple as it is to enjoy both reading and writing. It doesn’t have to be a lot of reading and a lot of writing…just do what calls in the moment, enjoy it and be greatful for the moment. I read on my Kindle too. It’s really convenient for reading when I am on the go. Thank you for your nice words and visit, Miriam. May you continue to read and write. Enjoy your Spring and wishing you well for the season ahead 😊❤

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  28. Ju-Lyn Avatar

    “Writing isn’t a linear process. Sometimes you read. Sometimes you write. And somewhere in between, maybe you’ll find where you’re at right now”

    I love this passage! You are obviously a very diligent & thoughtful writer. May this journey continue to bring you joy & delight!

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      Thank you for the kind words, Ju-Lyn. Writing has its ups and downs. Sometimes writing inspiration comes easy to me. Other times it doesn’t and I’m really better off doing something else. I hope to share more of this writing journey. Wishing you well 😊❤

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  29. Valentina Avatar

    Mabel, writing for some people is a daunting task and for others is a simple thing to do. Reading is important to learn new words and collect information on the subject related to your writing, but it shouldn’t stop your writing from moving forward. Ideas can come any moment of the day and pleasantly you will find that carrying a note book with you to jot down your thoughts as they come will help when you will put together all the notes. Write only in your most productive hours of the day and leave it until next time, don’t force it. Writing is a creative process and it is important to do it everyday for not losing the inspiration, reading is only necessary to a point and you don’t have to do it every day.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You can certainly learn new words and information when you read. You know what, ideas do come into my head very suddenly and unexpectedly all of the time. For instance, when I am out doing errands or winding down for the evening, I’d have a random idea or sentences come into my head – and I have to rush to write it all down. Too many times I did not, and I cannot remember the ideas. Now I know better. No idea why ideas can come and go so suddenly.

      I hope you are doing well, Valentina. Thank you for the visit. Wishing you well and take care 😊❤

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      1. Valentina Avatar

        “No idea why ideas can come and go so suddenly.” Because life takes place every moment and distract us.
        I am doing well, I hope you are the same. ❤️

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          True, life can be distracting. I also like to think that sometimes ideas are messages from the universe. A bit of magic for us to work with and believe in ourselves.

          Wishing you well, Valentina ❤️

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  30. Sonyboy Fugaban Avatar

    I’m no writer, Mabel, but as a blogger, I do feel the dilemna of choosing between the two at times. It didn’t occur to me how different our creative process are until I read this piece.

    It’s simpler for me when it comes to finding balance because I don’t really get to experience the whole writer process thing especially reading literary pieces on paper. I mean as part of creating a blog post.

    What I usually do is get on to the keyboard and write a piece right away if the inspiration is intense. Then I use Google’s assistance when facts become part of a sentence. I do those processess alternately, or as I go along.

    I could see the difference, of course, between what a legit writer like you can come up with over that of someone like me. You get the idea.

    One thing is clear to though. Reading is an absolute part of the process. The intensity may vary and, in my case, obviously not at a level that you have describe yet essential.

    Anyway, this line really got me: “The organised chaos of a writer’s life… To read, or to write…” It encapsulates the the whole picture of people who write and blog.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      What a thoughtful reflection, Sony. It really does sound like our creative processes are different, but both creative processes nonetheless.

      It’s great you decide to sit down and write (when you can) when the inspiration strikes you. Sometimes you really just have to make the most of your creative inspiration and get it out into some kind of word form…because you just never know if it will ever come back again. I hope you get to write down all the ideas that come to you.

      I would see you as a legit writer, definitely, since you take your time and put a lot of your thought in your words, be it on your blogs or social media posts. Writing takes time. And so does reading. Just as we go through different phases of writing, we go through different phases of reading. Both are essential to the creative process that is being a writer.

      Hope have been doing well, Sony. Wishing you well 😊❤

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  31. andysmerdon Avatar

    Hi Mabel 😊 For me, reading and listening to poetry helps me to write poetry. It is not that I copy what I am reading, it is just that being exposed to somebody else’s poetry gets my mind thinking like a poet. Then I can start scratching together words that will hopefully end up as a poem I am happy with. Thanks for another inspiring article Mabel. Stay warm during these chilly, early Spring days. 🤗

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Hello Andy. Very nice to hear your writing process on poetry, and thanks for sharing that. Sometimes we need a bit of a creative spark, and reading others’ work really gets us thinking and sets us on our own path. You write poetry wonderfully and I hope you share more poetry soon. Happy Spring and let’s look forward to Summer 🌞😀 Wishing you well, Andy 😊❤

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  32. Annika Perry Avatar

    Mabel, your essays are always a treat to read and this one even more so with both of my favourite activities – reading & writing! 😀

    To me it seems you have achieved a perfect balance. I too believe that ‘Reading complements writing. Writing complements reading.’ I am flabbergasted when I see some writers advising new writers to NOT read while writing on a novel or such. What?? Why??

    Reading is an intrinsic part which makes us writers and yes, even better writers!

    At times I will be pulled up short by such wondrous writing I have to pause, analyse why it is so unique, learn a little (or a lot). Furthermore, I can be even more inspired by writing or subject matter that is badly done, seeing a way it could be better! Our work is influenced by everything around in our lives, it would be nonsensical if reading was not part of this.

    Now, balancing writing with stressful / traumatic periods in our lives is another topic but feel it is much harder to achieve an equilibrium here.

    Here’s to finding finding and embrace the harmony of reading & writing! Annika

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Your comment is insightful and so much appreciated, Annika. It got me thinking when you say I have achieved a perfect balance between reading and writing. Maybe. Maybe not 😄 I guess it depends on where I am in my journey as a writer and all round, as a person. I so agree with you that writing can make us writers even better. Reading might seem tedious and long sometimes, but each time we read is an opportunity to take away something from the story or the way something is written.

      Love it when you say you can be inspired by something that is not written the best. You certainly see the bright side of things – see things how you can evolve from there and turn it into something else. I think our lives will always influence where we are as a writer and reader. What we are going through can influence what we read, and maybe want to write too.

      It is such a pleasure seeing you, Annika. I hope you had a great holiday over the summer and you are settling into the next season. Looking forward to catching up with you again soon. Wishing you well 😊❤

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  33. Thomas Avatar

    Interesting post! I feel like I just have to make time to enjoy both – it feels weird to me now to not read or write, like both are so integral to my day to day. Though I can see how with limited time or resources one may feel pulled between the two. I hope writing your book is going as well as possible. (:

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Reading and writing can be so integral when you are a writer, so if you are into research. They both go hand in hand. Agree, sometimes you can feel pulled between both with limited time or resources – you can’t do it all sometimes. In these times I think it might be best to focus on one or the other rather than be distracted by both with the limited time you can spend on each. It is lovely seeing you and hope you are doing well, Thomas 😊❤

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  34. Ali Grimshaw Avatar

    Mabel,
    I appreciate your thoughtful reflection. I also appreciate the way you continue to be persistent in your writing and the way you read as a way of developing your skills. I think what matters most is that you put yourself into what you write. There is no one else like you. Your perspective is unique.❤️

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      That is so kind of you to say, Ali. Thanks so much for reading and reflecting. Reading is certainly a way to get inspired to write. The more we read, the more we gain perspective. I hope you have a wonderful year ahead and may you find inspiration to write your lovely poems as you always do, Ali 😊❤

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  35. Carl Wright Avatar

    Thank you for sharing, Mabel. So much respect for you as you write your book. Writing is not easy. Thank you for your personal insights.

    I read a quite a wide type of material. Particularly as a Pastor, I don’t want to be narrowly focused so I’ll try to get a complete worldview on any given subject. Sermon preparation takes up a major part of my reading. Because of that, many of my personal articles take many weeks to write. I have several in draft form that have been there longer than 6 years. They’ll probably never get completed. I can really relate to your question, “How can I write in a way that others can understand and relate to?

    I’ll probably never write a book as I know I would get bogged down. You are an inspiration, Mabel. Thank you. Keep up the great work. 🙏

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      A thoughtful comment from you, Carl. ‘Writing is not easy.’ You said it. Being a writer, and writing a book, you really don’t know how your words come across. If you’re say presenting or speaking to an audience, chances are you get feedback on where your audience is at right away.

      It is fascinating you prepare and deliver sermons. Sounds like that itself is a lot of work, from knowing well what you want to share as a pastor and then outlining it to others. Your personal blog articles are such wonderful reads – you tell good stories and accompany them with important messages, not to mention the research that goes int it. Perhaps your drafts might serve at inspiration at some point for a future post, you never know. And who knows, maybe you will write a book at some stage 🙂

      Many thanks for stopping by, reading, reflecting and for your kind words, Carl. Hope you are doing well and take care 😊❤

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  36. Carl Wright Avatar

    You are very welcome, Mabel. Thank you so much for your kind words. As the sermons are each Sunday, if it is not there, I can’t just leave it in “draft” as I do with my blog posts. The biggest challenge is to be fresh and captivating as I connect the dots to show the glory, grandeur, and greatness of God to the congregation. In order to do that I have to be wowed personally by a passage of Scripture before I expound on it in a sermon.

    Not sure if all this makes sense. I am doing well myself. Hope you are well yourself! 😀

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It is always a pleasure to hear someone talking about what they are passionate about. I really enjoyed reading your experience of putting together a sermon each week. Those who attend your church are probably very much delighted to hear you share on Sundays. Take care 🙂

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  37. Christy B Avatar

    Great topic! I’ve been writing consistently lately but not reading a lot. There’s a sense of imbalance when reading or writing aren’t happening as much as we’d like. While not a set number of hours needs to be set for writing or reading, it’s more intuitive for writers I think as to which one to do more of or less of to keep balance. I know your book will be amazing, Mabel.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It can certainly be intuitive for writers when it comes to reading and writing. We might be happier simply following how we feel. If we want to read, then perhaps honour that feeling to read. Same goes for when we want to write. I hope you are enjoying writing and get to read more at some point. Thanks, Christy. Hope you are well 😊❤️

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