7 Ways To Stop Talking To Someone Without Being Rude

There are times when you’ll encounter people who are up for a chat and will talk away. But you don’t want to talk and want to avoid them.

You might wonder: how do you stop talking to someone without being rude? How do you end a conversation politely, especially if the other person won’t stop talking?

Public Payphone, Bourke Street Mall, Melbourne, Australia

Sometimes you’re in the middle of something and talking isn’t ideal. Perhaps you’re avoiding the person talking to you altogether. Or you’re not in the mood for talking and it’s just bad timing.

You often mean well and don’t want to abruptly cut the person off – be it a friend or a complete stranger, talking in person, over the phone or through social media.

As an introvert who thrives on quietness and stillness, I don’t want to talk all the time. Don’t want to entertain small talk or in-depth discussions all day, even if my friends genuinely want to chat. Over time, I’ve learnt there are subtle yet intentional ways to quickly wind down a dialogue amicably without hurting anyone’s feelings.

Here are some of these ways to stop talking to someone and end a conversation gracefully.

1. Set time limits and boundaries

Make it clear how long you can chat to keep the conversation short. Someone might ask ‘How are you?’ and you could reply along the lines of, ‘Good. I’m heading off in a few minutes. How are you?’ If you’re already talking and there’s a pause in conversation, you could mention something similar.

Setting expectations on your availability at the start is a subtle way to say you are up for a short interaction. It’s a way of saying while you need time for yourself, you’re also happy to make time for the other person.

If the other person was after something from you, then they might get the hint and get straight to the point. When you set boundaries and someone feels you are avoiding them, then that’s their problem.

Public Payphone, Elizabeth Street, Melbourne, Australia

2. Move the conversation along

Genuinely engage with the other person right away, listening and focusing on what they are saying. Ask questions about what they seem excited about. Ask more questions to get them to open up, putting the attention on them to show they are important.

You could also use prompts like, ‘Oh, that’s interesting. What did you do next?’ to get the other person to the point. People are generally happier when they have more genuine conversations without the obligation of trivial small talk. So the sooner you engage with them, the sooner you can have a thoughtful discussion and the sooner you can get away.

Personally I like to listen and learn about the person whom I’m talking to. Being an intuitive introvert has helped me read people fairly well. It helps me to carry on conversations that make others feel valued – and then slip it in that I’ve got to go.

3. Use non-committal body language

If you’re chatting in person, you can try looking elsewhere, break eye contact or start slowly walking away. You could also use short and sharp responses to hint that you’re no longer interested in talking.

While turning away may come across as impolite, body language speaks louder than words. Body language is a natural extension of yourself for most part and many people can read and get social behavioural cues.

Public Payphone (2), Elizabeth Street, Melbourne, Australia

4. Pretend you’re on a call

It’s probably one of the oldest tricks in the book to avoid someone especially in public, pretending to be on a call. Or you could keep your head down with eyes glued to your phone, scrolling away without saying a word.

5. Read a book

If you have a book, pull out a book and read a book. Reading is generally regarded as a quiet, solitary activity and you need to focus to understand what you’re reading. Others might then be inclined to leave you alone to read.

Similarly, put on headphones and listen to music – another way to show others you want to be left alone.

During lunch time in the office (pre-pandemic times), I like pulling out a book while eating and have some quiet time reading. That or scroll on my phone. Most of the time my colleagues leave me alone. At times it actually takes saying ‘I’m reading’ or persistently looking down at my phone for others to get that I want to spend my short break alone away from the office chatter.

6. Put your hands up and be honest

Sometimes people won’t get that you don’t want to talk even after you’ve dropped subtle hints. Sometimes you have to be honestly upfront that you want to stop chit-chatting.

Theatrically interrupt the conversation in person by raising both hands up in surrender, excusing yourself saying you got to go. Or gesture the other way like a lollipop man saying your ride or train is coming along. Chances are the person talking will take note of your unexpected theatrics. Or maybe say you want to be left alone without raising your voice.

If you’re chatting virtually, try saying ‘I’ve got to go’ or ‘Talk to you later’ followed by an emoji, such as a heart or happy face to show you mean no hard feelings.

Public Payphone, Swanston Street, Melbourne, Australia

7. Walk away

If someone really won’t stop talking, walk away. It could be the more polite thing to do rather than use aggressive ways or language of saying you don’t want a conversation, avoiding any unpleasant confrontation.

If it’s a stranger who won’t stop talking to you and you feel uncomfortable, silently walk away (or block them online) as soon as possible to avoid potential stranger danger.

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Research has shown different people have different wants and expectations when talking to others. A Harvard study examined 932 conversations between pairs of people found conversations didn’t end when participants wanted them to. It also found about 69% of participants felt a point they wanted the conversation to end while the rest wanted to keep talking. Most participants also incorrectly estimated how long their partner wanted to converse.

Sometimes people want to keep talking to you because they are happy to see you. Maybe they are eager to share something with you. Maybe they want some company or are extroverts who feel energised when socialising with others – and conversational flow stimulates a sense of belonging.

While entertaining others is important, there’s a time and place to have a chat with someone. You’re entitled to have your physical and mental boundaries, even if it means dropping out of talking with someone because you aren’t up for it.

You are important and don’t forget to prioritise your own needs. Sometimes silence and being alone is what you may need to feel better again. As writer Susan Cain said on the importance of quietness:

‘Solitude matters and for some people, it’s the air they breathe.’

Public Payphone (1), Swanston Street, Melbourne, Australia

Notably different cultures have different ways of communicating and not wanting to communicate with others. Asian cultures are generally quieter and more reserved. If you’re someone who embodies these stereotypical Asian traits, perhaps you’re inclined to let others speak. People who are chatty might see your quietness as a great opportunity to talk over you and you could find it hard to pipe up to ask them to quiet down. Others might see you as ‘too quiet’ with not much to say and leave you alone after saying a few words to you.

Being both an Asian person with stereotypical traits and an introvert, there are many occasions when I want no talking. On one hand, each time someone talks to me, I want to be ‘save face’ polite and engage in conversation. On the other hand, that introvert side of me really wants quiet, and quietly but intentionally will use one or more subtle ways, stand up for myself and walk away from a conversation without a scene.

Having brief conversations and cutting conversations short doesn’t invalidate a relationship, especially with people who mean well. Those who care about you would respect your boundaries.

If you can joke around with someone, chances are they should be able to handle a blunt conversation and back off respectfully when you ask for peace and quiet.

How do you stop talking to someone politely?

135 thoughts on “7 Ways To Stop Talking To Someone Without Being Rude

  1. Sometimes talking to people can be the worst. Thanks for sharing! There’s always some risk that introverts can still come across as rude, but at a certain point one must do what’s best for themselves and not worry too much… it is worth a try to politely disengage of course

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    • You said it, ‘sometimes talking to people can be the worst’. I’m totally fine with people wanting to break off a conversation all of a sudden but some people don’t get it and really see it as rude. Always good to do what’s best for you and move along.

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  2. Great tips Mabel! I am more extroverted than you but there are times when conversations wear me down and I dont want to continue. My favourite saying is “I’m sorry I have to go now as I need to
    However I am the kind of person who likes to strike up a conversation with a stranger and sometimes this works and sometimes it doesnt. Most people like to communicate with other humans as we are social beings. But of course there is a time and place for a good chat 🙂

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    • Thanks, Charles. It sounds like you like engaging conversation and learned a lot from others. Agree that some conversations can wear you down and it can be a challenge to get away, especially if the other person looks happy talking to you. A lot of people need social interaction to fill their cup and that’s because as you mentioned, we are social beings. Hope you are doing well.

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  3. Simple tips that ought to be common sense, but I guess some people can’t take a hint sometimes. To be fair, I’m awful at determining if a person is talking to me out of politeness or truly interested in getting to know more about me…and forget about knowing if they want to stop talking. Thankfully, I’ve gotten slightly better over the years by watching body language videos on YouTube, but I have a ways to go before I can really hone in on having just the right amount of conversation for specific people. Thanks for sharing!

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    • I am sure you’ve never been that awful at reading people! Sometimes people like to keep to themselves so it can really be hard to gauge if they are interested in talking to you or wanting a conversation. Most of the time I assume the other person doesn’t want a conversation if they don’t say much after a few pleasantries. Hope you are doing well 🙂

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  4. Thanks for sharing Mabel. I enjoyed reading this. Sometimes it can be hard to stop a conversation or tell someone you don’t want to talk anymore because you care about how the other person might feel or you don’t want to come across as rude. It’s interesting how there are different ways to respond depending on the situation and who you may be talking to

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    • Thanks so much for reading, Katie 🙂 That’s so true, you don’t want to stop a conversation as you care about the other person’s feelings and care about them as a person. I think being as polite as possible makes it easier on the other person. Being honest about not wanting a conversation is in itself something to be respected – as opposed to putting in half an effort talking to someone. Hope you are doing well over there.

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  5. I can’t recall having trouble to end conversations but I often have a problem that I feel it’s similar: when at a party or social reunion, I just don’t know how to leave. Maybe I’ve been wanting to leave for some time but I don’t know how to. And the moment I say “I have to leave” people start replying: “Oh, not so soon!”. I hate it hahahaha. I really have a problem with this.

    On the topic of differences in conversation between Asians and Westerners, I have a good example. In China, when talking to someone and they say “Well I’m leaving, bye”, they turn around and leave (also when talking on the phone, they say “Bye” and hang up). In Spain, farewells take AGES. You can say “Well, I’m leaving” and then expect to have another 10 minutes of conversation. I don’t know why, but it’s like that hahaha.

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    • That’s such a good observation – going to a party or social thing and you don’t know how to leave. I think that happens a lot. And that’s so true when people say things along the lines of ‘It so early!’ when you are leaving 😄 Usually I’m always one of the first people to leave and I just go up to the hosts and excuse myself in front of everyone lol.

      That’s so interesting in Spain people drag out leaving for as long as possible. It might be the polite thing to do. That or wanting to avoid where you are going next 😄

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  6. Hello Mabel,
    Very nice to read your writing again, and you shared some very important and wise advice! I also noticed the new header illustration – it’s lovely. I hope you and all your dear ones are continuing to stay safe and healthy.
    Best wishes from Japan,
    Takami

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    • It is lovely to see you, Takami. Thank you for your kind words. Also thank you for complimenting the new header. It was illustrated by an artist called Pinodesk and you can find her on Etsy. We are doing okay here, still in lockdown. Summer is coming here in Australia and hope things will get better. Take care over there in Japan.

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  7. Hello Mabel,
    Very nice to read your writing again, and you shared some very important and wise advice! I also noticed the new header illustration – it’s lovely. I hope you and all your dear ones are continuing to stay safe and healthy.
    Best wishes from Japan,
    Takami

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    • That was exactly what I was thinking when I wrote this post – that many in Melbourne are eager to go out, socialise and talk after lockdown after lokdown For me I realised the solitude over this last year has been such a blessing.

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  8. Nice topic Mabel. While I’ve never come across a person who would indulge in unwanted conversation, I feel body language is an awesome tool to convey your thoughts. However, friends’ chit-chat is endless and we have a group here that could talk for hours and would accompany you to your car and wouldn’t stop till you say – ok, bye now. 😀

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    • Thanks, Balroop. Agreed that body language is a very good way to get you out of talking if you don’t want to talk or want to leave. I hope that has worked for you. It sounds like you and your friends are very supportive of each other, talking to each other until getting to the car…and talking the moment you step out of the car to say hi 😀

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  9. This is an excellent post. Most women I know have been trained not to be excessively polite, especially to men, and we get trapped in unwanted conversations all the time. Often, our hints and body language are too subtle–or the men are too unobservant–but when we finally walk away or say we have to go, men tell us we’re “rude,” or “stuck up,” etc.

    It’s good to have an arsenal of escape lines prepared in advance. 🙂

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    • Now that, is an excellent point. Women today are still expected to sit down and shut up, and listen to what they are being told. If we have an opinion, some may also consider it rude or overbearing. Or if you state an opinion, you could then face a barrage of mansplaining.

      I do think walking away is a very good response. But if you can deliver a punchline and walk away, even better.

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  10. These are fascinating suggestions. I try to be upfront and say I don’t have time to talk if I don’t. If I do have time yet, I don’t want to chat with the person trying to engage with me; I’ll usually persist, so I avoid being rude because you never know what benefit may come from the interaction for the person from me or from the person to me or both.

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    • Thanks, Gary. Hat’s off to you for trying to be upfront if you need to get away from a conversation. You must be used to it by now. Like you mentioned, sometimes I’ve chatted with people and I learned something or it lead to something. I think that’s how many connections here have been formed 😊

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  11. This is really useful my friend. I am also an introvert that finds small talk anxiety inducing. It feels forced rather than genuine conversational flow. Setting boundaries is so important even if they feel uncomfortable at first. Miss you my friend x

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    • Thank you my friend. Agreed, small talk is anxiety inducing. It’s gets worse when the person, especially a stranger, starts asking you questions. So setting boundaries straight up is important, or simply walking away. Miss you too my friend ❤

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  12. As always Mabel you give me a lot to reflect on. As an extrovert, who as you point out energizes through socialization, these are good reminders. I really like your first tip about setting expectations straight away. I will admit that one place I rarely speak is on a plane to someone I don’t know. I have been caught in hours of conversation and felt very uncomfortable. So I have my earphones at the ready. Perhaps in a plane there really is no escape and this the feeling of being trapped. And I’m an extrovert!

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    • Very kind of you to say, Sue. Thank you so much. You are always so eager for a chat and wanting to make sure the other person is okay. So hearing that you have earphones at the ready on the plane is surprising. Good on you for knowing your boundaries as an extrovert, and I hope the earphones have helped you get some quiet while flying. I would always be up for a chat with you, even on a long flight 😀

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      • The earphones have worked well. Although a few years ago I was using my earphone trick, but the gentleman beside me was quite relentless in starting up conversation. Once we got talking he turned out to be such an interesting individual. Dave and I ended up visiting him in both Ireland and Mexico in subsequent years. Perhaps it is good to have methods ready to stop conversation but also be flexible as one never knows where a conversation may lead!
        I’m delighted to hear you would be ready to have a chat Mabel. I treasure our time together those years ago.

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        • You are so right. Sometimes you never know where a conversation could take you, even if you are not in the mood for talking. That is so lovely you made a friend on the plane, and later ended up visiting him on your travels. A conversation can certainly take you places 😊

          I also treasure the afternoon we spent together those years ago. It was a pleasure to meet you.

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  13. I can relate to this. As an introvert myself, I’m often ‘trapped’ in a situation where someone just bumps into me and starts talking and keeps talking and talking. Usually what I do to escape from this is making up an excuse — I have to go to a meeting, or a friend is waiting for me, or something else. Most of the time it works, although there were rare occasions where the other person insisted on talking with me despite the signs I have given him/her.

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    • It’s good you can make some excuses to get away from a conversation. As you alluded, some people can be very insistent on talking and talking and not getting your hints. As an introvert, and maybe you can also relate, when people keep talking and don’t get the hint it wears me down and can be draining. So sometimes I’ll just say a quick by and walk away even though it seems rude. Hope all is well with you over there, Bama.

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      • Things are much better now in Indonesia, but the central government still implement restrictions which are based on a city’s/regency’s performance in handling the pandemic. The better the numbers are — low new and active cases, and high vaccination rates, among others — the lesser restrictions are imposed. Hope you too are doing well, Mabel.

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        • Good to hear things are much better know over there. Some countries are starting to open up. Maybe you can start traveling abroad soon, or if not more frequent travels close to home. I’m alright over here. Hope you have a good week, Bama 🙂

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  14. Hi Mabel,
    These are great tips. I don’t usually have any trouble ending a conversation if I need to, although I must admit that some people seem to drone on and on about their complaints as if it’s my duty to listen to them. If I felt it helped them, I wouldn’t mind so much, but I think they probably just blurt it all out to whoever they meet.
    Have a wonderful weekend. Stay safe.

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    • Thanks, Norah. That is such a good point. It can be a challenging time when people complain to you or treat you as an emotional dumping ground. As you alluded to, this can be alright if you are wanting to be there for them or help them. In these kinds of situations you really have to be mindful about being polite and walking away. You stay safe too Norah. Happy weekend.

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      • You’re right, Mabel. It is a delicate situation and a balancing act. Certainly, if I feel people benefit from sharing, I’m happy to listen, but it’s not pleasant to simply be a dumping ground. Enjoy the week – one more closer to freedom. 💖

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        • Agreed. Sometimes you’re happy to listen and other days you really need time for yourself. There’s a time and place for every conversation. Another week, another step towards a better tomorrow. Enjoy your warm weather and getting out and about 💖

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          • Thanks, Mabel. We’ve had a bit of lovely rain here, the last few days.
            I see the number of cases down there is reducing and the vaccinations increasing. That’s good news and something to look forward to. Enjoy!

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  15. I feel being frank is the best way. It is best to communicate that getting late for work is not good and I need to rush. Or even saying that I will catch you up a little later is fine as well. I’m sure some people are good at making alibi but then it varies from person to person. Suit yourself.

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  16. Great topic, Mabel. I’m astounded at how some people can really motor at the mouth. I’m a friendly sort and don’t mind a bit of chit chat but not on and on. It’s important to know when to end it and to take social cues from others who are maybe not as happy to see you as you are them. 🙂 I will try some of your tips next time.

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    • Really like how you say it, ‘some people can really motor at the mouth’. Some people have a lot of energy and can go on and on, which I find quite fascinating. It’s nice of you to engage in chit chat and entertain others when you re up for it. Also very considerate of you to observe social cues of others as and when they want to leave. Thank you for reading. Hope all is well with you 🙂

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  17. These are all grat suggestion, Mabel. I find that because of COVID I’ve had more text messages.
    People have stopped using the telephone. I think I like texting because one can always text back at a later time. Of course, these are less personal ways to interact but I think it will be the future way to communicate. My grandson, who’s 10 and has a cell phone, likes to text. I guess we have to adjust.
    As far as in person, I’m usually up front and will say, ” Sorry, this isn’t a good time. Let’s catch up on another day. But, it’s good to see you.”
    Fantastic topic … and, write …. Isadora 😎

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    • Such an astute observation, Isadora. Agree that these days people tend to text (phone text or online chat). That way you can reply when it suits you and when you feel you can give the other person your full attention. These days many of us live all over the world and so it makes sense to chat via text.

      That is lovely you and your grandson text – and hope the two of you have many memorable chats over text. Thank you for your support and take care 😊

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  18. What an interesting topic considering social distancing, the pandemic, and smart phones. I feel like folks don’t engage like they used to. I remember walking into a classroom and all the kids would be talking to each other — years later, they just stare at their phones.

    I think many today feel more comfortable staring and scrolling at their phones than striking up a conversation. I was talking to some single friends about meeting guys, and I can’t help but feel these days in this call-out culture and videos being so easily recorded that people would be terrified to talk to strangers! But apparently it’s different over there!

    As far as talking goes, I strive for balance, as much as possible. I listen then, depending on the situation, go from there. Older people can be lonely so I listen — I try not to be in a hurry and pay attention to people because I think having a supportive community is important. And you can make someone’s day by being there. Just yesterday, the drug store lady was talking so so much, my friends and I were all waiting, but she was obviously wanting to practice her English, so we let her talk.

    But in the city, where it’s more dangerous, I can understand how protecting your time and space might be the higher priority. I don’t know, now I’m remembering another time where a woman we met at a restaurant just talked for ages to us, her food was cold, but we listened. I guess we’re weird. 😛

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    • Wow, thanks for your reflection, Lani. A lot of food for thought there. Not surprising since you are a thoughtful and articulate writer 😛

      I did think about the pandemic when writing this post. As you said, these days people probably don’t engage like they used to. People seem absorbed in looking and scrolling on their phones. I totally agree with your single friends and anyone can record or screenshot what you chat or share about online. It’s no wonder why some people ghost others online when they feel uncomfortable.

      You are right that some people may be lonely, and it’s very kind of you to listen to others. It’s such a simple gesture, to sit and listen and it could really mean the world to someone. And one day you might be lonely and want someone to listen to you too. The drugstore lady who talked heaps sounded like she meant well 🙂

      I think you got to be careful talking to any stranger in general. Who knows if they are setting you up to fall into a trap of some sort. You can never be to careful to end the conversation and walk away. Hope all is well with settling in, Lani 🙂

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  19. Nice write, Mabel, about one of those social hazards that one is frequently up against. Introverts like us do not have a problem as we need more time with ourselves. But it is not so with the outgoing types who derive their energy by being with people. Some of them are indeed interesting and rewarding to engage with, whereas many are creeps weaponised to wear out people. All your tips can be selectively applied depending on the situation.

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    • Lovely to see you, Raj. You said it very well, that introverts like us need more time for ourselves. While it can be insightful and rewarding to talk to someone, talking on and on can wear us down. As you alluded to, some people also talk to us to take advantage of us, even if we know them for a while. Hope you are doing okay and staying safe over there, Raj.

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    • So lovely of you to read the comments, Jacqui. I am sure the commenters appreciate your time. I like how you say it, ‘conversation stopper’. That is a good one, pointing out the other person is in a hurry or heading somewhere…which they always are 😀

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  20. Wonderful to read you again, Mabel 🙂 This is such a perfect subject, as there is no easy solution and love the ideas (and comments) of how to deal with such situations. It can be frustrating when in a hurry, and then I get caught up in such a situation and I simply ride it out… I just have a hard time saying “no” or “sorry, I really have to go” when I should. These days, however, with the worry of Covid, it is kind of nice being drawn into a conversation even if it is a bit unwanted 🙂 Wishing you well, Mabel, and take care!

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    • It is wonderful to see you again, Randall 🙂 I was debating whether to share this piece or not, thinking that everyone is wanting and eager to talk with all that is happening in the world. As you said, it is nice being drawn into conversation. You are so polite to stay in conversations and ride them out. You probably get remembered for being a good friend who listens, and people remember you 🙂 Hope you are doing well and take care too.

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      • The timing of this post is perfect, because I think now people will be buzzing about having been use to not having to be too social, so there may be a bit more anxiety. I do enjoy listening to others, but the isolation of the past 18 months has made me less patient 🙂 Cheers to you!

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        • Quietness is something that can be so comforting and soothing. I think many people might come to realise that as they come out to socialise. It’s lovely to catch up with one another but at the same time it’s also lovely to spend some time by yourself. Sounds like you learn a lot over the last year, Randall. Take care 🙂

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    • That is a very good line, ‘I’ve gotta go’. Straight to the point and telling the truth. Hope it always works with your dad when you are caught in a long conversation with him 😀

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  21. Fun post as always Mabel. I must admit I don’t often have this problem. Here in our little microcosm most everyone is busy and very few will engage in an unwelcome conversation. There are one or two exceptions and we’ve all learned various ways to avoid them BEFORE the conversation would begin LOL!

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    • I like how you describe my post, fun. Thanks, Tina 😊 That is great you have a little microcosm where most keep busy keeping to themselves. Good that you know how to avoid getting stuck in conversations before they begin. You got a great skill 😊 Hope you are having a good week.

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    • Thank you so much. I so relate to that – being introverted and don’t know what to do sometimes when caught in a conversation. It can be hard hiding from the person talking to you 🙂

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  22. These are great tips, Mabel. I’ve run into a few people who tend to be a too chatty. It seems to always happen at the grocery store when I’m in a hurry. 🙂
    Have a good day! Lauren

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    • Thanks, Lauren. That is a good observation. I’ve also encountered chatty people at the grocery story. Hope you always manage to get away from chatty people at the grocery store, or have a quick chat with them. You have a good day too and enjoy the rest of your week 🙂

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  23. Such an excellent and concise post Mabel. Your methods are all great, and I’ve probably used a few myself. But I think averting our eyes from the person we’re talking to is very effective if someone gets the drift. I know if someone isn’t looking at me when I’m talking I’ll slowly ease myself away. Do no harm, but find a way when it’s time to go lol 🙂 ❤

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  24. These are all great ideas Mabel. I think the first one is the best for me. I like the idea of setting boundaries and having time limits on a conversation. Some people just don’t get the hint and that’s where sometimes other tactics have to be used. We can be firm and assertive without being rude. Hope you’re doing well.

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  25. Yessss appreciate these boundaries so much! I feel like it’s important to be able to advocate for oneself and to have specific strategies to do so, especially for people who may be accustomed to giving into the demands of others over their own needs and wants. Glad you mention cultural considerations too as you usually do.

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    • Yessss glad you liked setting boundaries when interacting with others. Interacting with others can be draining and not appropriate at all times. Meeting your needs is important – it’s a form of taking care of yourself and self-care. You have a good weekend, Thomas. Thank you for stopping by.

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  26. Hi Mabel, A nicely constructed set of tips. You can’t always rely on people reading body language or hearing statements that are closers. I find it amusing, albeit frustrating at times.
    I am often amazed at people who are chattering away endlessly on their phones…I guess I don’t have that much to say. 🤣 Thanks for another interesting post.

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    • Thanks, Jane. Yes, it can be frustrating when people keep chatting and not recognising that you want to leave. I’m not much of a talking-on-the-phone person, so like you, I am also amazed at people who can talk heaps on the phone (unless it’s with someone I haven’t talked to in ages). Hope you are doing well and have a good week ahead 🙂

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  27. Hi Mabel! Great post. I’ve struggled with this situation countless times. I’ve become better at setting boundaries and using the strategies you suggest but it’s still uncomfortable in some cases…and some people just don’t get the hint!

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    • Thanks, Caroline. That is great you are better at getting away from conversations these days. Agreed, it can be uncomfortable sometimes, especially if people just keep talking and don’t let you get a word in! It can be equally uncomfortable when the other person seems caught up in their own world. Sometimes you just got to try your best to get out of such conversations 😊

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    • Thanks, Donna. Being honest and setting boundaries can be really nice ways to tell someone you aren’t up for a long chat. Hopefully you don’t have to resort to walking away cold turkey to get out of a conversation. I am sure you are nice to talk to and if you want time to yourself, people understand 😊

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  28. Haha, I have a dictionary to cut off conversation, from “losing signal”, “disconnected” to “too loud, I cannot hear you”, “my fish is jumping out” 😛 But that works only on the phone/internet. Personal contact is a bit difficult. Depends on the situation, I might use Option 2 (Move along) for a few minutes and then find a reason to leave, or Option 7 (walk away). It’s certainly better to walk away than pouring the anger/frustration on another person.

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    • Hahaha, you got some funny ways to end a conversation, even if it’s more suitable over phone or online chatting. I like, ‘I cannot hear you’ on the phone – and you can make some pretend disconnecting noise too 😛 Agreed walking away is a good option if the other person won’t stop talking in person. It is then that they might get the hint 🙂

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      • Most people do get the hint when we walk away. But some doesn’t. I have an (talkative) acquantaince who stalks me, even to the bathroom’s door. Luckily, I didn’t have to see him on bad days 🙂

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        • That’s so funny that you got a talkative acquaintance who will stalk you everywhere until the bathroom door. It reminds of how sometimes people are also chatty when they are in a public bathroom behind closed doors 😀

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    • I like how you describe how some people can ‘rabbit on’. So true. I think if all else fails, the last option walking away would be the best option and then the other person might get the hint. Have a good week, Sylvia 🙂

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    • I get people talking and talking to me for a quite a while, such as with friends and work. It happens quite a bit. So I keep in mind several ways to get out of a conversation for when I want to leave 😀

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