Why It’s Hard Being A Blogger. And Why Some Asians Find It Hard To Be Creative

Blogging. It’s a space where we are creative and share creativity. Our writing. Photography. Fashion tips. Handmade craft. But blogging and creativity don’t always come easy, sometimes perhaps more so if we’re Asian.

Next week marks three years since I started this blog. Three years of being a multicultural blogger writing about all things culture and what makes Australia, Australia. In all honesty, it’s been challenging getting inspired and weaving words into sentences for every blog post.

Creativity knows no boundaries. The beauty of each sunset knows no boundaries | Weekly Photo Challenge: Boundaries.
Creativity knows no boundaries. The beauty of each sunset knows no boundaries | Weekly Photo Challenge: Boundaries.

Creativity is about seeing the light, connecting ideas. It’s about discovering solutions to problems and seeing the same thing in different shades and from different angles. Each of us believes in certain values and stereotypes – two things that might hold us back from being the creative person whom we want to be.

When others around us tell us not to, we might hesitate to go after our creative ambitions. We hesitate to be a creative artist because it doesn’t sound like a practical venture. Graduating from university with an Arts degree, my Chinese-Malaysian parents egged me to get a numbers-crunching job. Good pay, they said.

The older we get, the more we depend on ourselves to make a living; others might depend on us too. There is the expectation in Chinese culture – stemming from Confucian ideals – that kids will take care of elderly parents when the time comes. Going down the creative path takes time, and there’s no guarantee we’ll succeed at what we love. There are only so many TV presenters, so many authors who sell millions of books, so many artists who make a living off their craft.

When we’re not used to being creative or doing that thing we love, sometimes we find it hard to be creative. Studies show that we tend to do better at something if we make the effort and try. With much focus on rote learning maths and science in schools in Asia, perhaps this is why some Asians hold back from exploring the arts – there simply isn’t time to try.

On occasions, what we see or don’t see around us discourages us from being creative. Australians from minority backgrounds are seldom seen in local media. Literature. Theatre. Dance. No one of the same race to look up to; we question if we belong. However, sometimes whether we feel creative simply boils down to personality, the choices we make. No matter where we come from, if we practise our craft, we’ll become better at it.

Blogging. It’s a conversational sphere. Blog honestly, blog about our lives, strike a chord with other bloggers. Which can be harder than it sounds.

When we see the beauty in life, often we feel in inspired to be creative.

There’s the stereotype Asians are reserved, quiet. In Chinese culture, showing emotion is seen as a sign of weakness or losing control. Writing for this blog for a while, speaking up about race, culture and the people in my life now comes easier to me. Blogging is personal. Creativity and art is personal. Art knows no boundaries; art challenges stereotypes around us and within ourselves. As author Criss Jami says, when we put ourselves out there, we learn what we’re capable of

“To share your weakness is to make yourself vulnerable; to make yourself vulnerable is to show your strength.”

Each of us bloggers blog for different reasons. Some of us blog to pass the time. Some of us take it more seriously, blogging to hone our craft, and dream of a massive following and making a living off our blog. But at the end of the day, blog views are just views, and our blogs and art often admired for fleeting moments.

Ironically, at times making a difference through our creativity lies within these small moments. Blogging about multiculturalism here certainly has its challenges and it’s easy to rub others the wrong way – we all have personal opinions on culture. It’s humbling to see some chiming into the conversation here. And that’s where the true beauty of blogging, art and creativity lies: sharing thoughts and musings, touching others who in turn see the world in a different perspective.

There’s more to life than blogging, being an artist and doing what we love. We have to stand up to live before we can sit down and write. Likewise we have to sit down and figure out who we are before we can stand up to live. Creativity comes from many a place, and when we slow down, we let the world speak to us. As author Osho said:

“To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring…a little more dance to it.”

When we feel stuck, sometimes we go back to the start. See things from a new angle And feel creative again.

I flipped open my diary at home after a day out. Started writing down things to-do. Next blog post penciled in three weeks down the track. Respond to blog comments tomorrow. Buy groceries after that. Photograph a sunset this weekend. Wandered to the green trees basking in the warm spring sunlight under the clear evening sky outside the window. We can’t predict the future, but we can certainly notice the present and make the most of it.

Taking on responsibilities and chasing dreams go together hand in hand. Since life is full of uncertainties, the least we can do is roll with the punches. Get up. Live life. Live stories. Then tell stories.

Do you find it hard to blog and be creative?

266 responses to “Why It’s Hard Being A Blogger. And Why Some Asians Find It Hard To Be Creative”

  1. Yan Balczewski Avatar

    “…..numbers-crunching job,”, then we are sharing the same career. I have advanced degree in engineering, and right now I am still doing statistical modeling / data analysis job for a big bank.

    Regarding blogging, creativity, art, openness, I am also sharing a lot of ideas with you. I have been blogging for a little over two years. I still remember how scary, hesitate I was to press “Publish” button for my very first blog post. Introvert in nature, educated to hide our true selves and not to speak up, it was a big decision for me to start my blog site. That was one of the reasons I named my blog as “From Hiding to Blogging”.

    Over two years, I have been feeling easier and easier to write / share my ideas / arts (photographs) with other bloggers, moreover I have become more comfortable, more confident to express myself at work, at home and in front of my friends.

    Blogging has helped me ease the pain and hurt from the past, and enhanced my capability to face the future.

    Thanks!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Funny how most of the jobs I’ve worked in are numbers-based. Even more so because most of the jobs I apply for involve nothing to do with numbers.

      I really like the name of your blog. It has such a story behind it. And good on you for taking the leap of faith and sharing your world here. Your photos are always so well composed and full of colour. You certainly are a photographer.

      Maybe doing what we love brings out the best in us. Maybe it teachers us to get over the bad times too, as you said.

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  2. Meihsiu Hsiao Avatar

    Dear Mabel
    Asian parents giving children besides love there are more “special concern” that could become a concern to create pressure, we are always in accordance with the parents to go our way, because they think that is a correct way.
    I was growing up, my academic performance is not good, is more difficult in Taiwan exam qualifications of civil servants and teachers, they think I can not be reached, so my parents wanted me to become a soldier, because this is a very stable “job” it has no relevance and interest, I “work” 20 years later, I think I have the potential in the arts and writing, but it has become a kind of “interest”
    Maybe I always position themselves as parents to look at Mabel’s feelings, but now I will say to my daughter, do you want to go for their own, so I want to say, regardless of any difficulties and doubts you, and I think we must take their own way, try to communicate.
    Have a nice day.

    Meihsiu

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Such an interesting perspective, Meihsiu. Not to insult any parent, but I reckon many older generation parents are strict because they want their child to have opportunities – thinking of the future all the time.

      Wow, becoming a soldier. I never knew Taiwan wanted women in the army back then. I think the important thing is if we like something, why not give it a go and have no expectations. Life is so unpredictable, and when we have no expectations while pursuing our dreams, we won’t be overly disappointed when we don’t “make it” and if we do, it’s just a bonus.

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  3. Kally Avatar

    Well said. When I told my Asian friends, I want to be a writer. They scoff at me and smiled, “you sure you want to do this? Doesn’t it waste your time? Time is money!” And now I have a great following of readers like you! When I tell them that, they laughed and said “Good for you but isn’t it just a hobby for you?”

    Asian don’t value arts and culture very much. My parents when I was tiny weeny said this to me when I wanted to enrol myself into an art school “But arts doesn’t bring much money, you are better off as a doctor..a lawyer..an engineer..anything as long as you don’t dwell in arts.” I know my parents wants to give me the best but in turn, they squashed my young dreams of being a designer. Fortunately as a young kid, I have many dreams I could pick from to explore but from time to time, I just wonder…. How differently would I turn out if I went to an art school..?

    I am still grateful for being who I am and where I am right now. Now is my turn to try to get the creative but rusty side of me back. After giving my all to the corporate world, let’s see if I can hone this part of me too.

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts in this. Beautifully articulated article. And I look forward to your next post!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I am younger than you, Kally, but I really admire you – on your blog and working in different countries. It’s so bold of you to pursue writing full time. I get the “hobby” comment about my writing all the time too. These days I just brush it aside.

      I think you earned your time to be creative and do what you love most of the day. It takes time to know if we truly love something – and you show it through sticking to your creative endeavours bit by bit through the years. I have just started and jot a taste of the corporate world a couple of years ago 😀

      If we love something – or someone – enough, we will always come back to it. No excuses. Simple as that.

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      1. Kally Avatar

        I’m definitely older than you, Mabel. Hahaha! Go and explore the corporate world, you’ll learn a lot and grow up a lot too. Especially in the business world, it’s a dog-eat-dog world out there. It took me a long time and by force too, to actually come to the decision to become a full time writer. Seriously, if I have a full time job, I probably don’t have time or energy to write a single word. But for now since I’m not under employment terms, I’ll write to keep my mind busy and to give my creativity side a chance to run wild.

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          I do feel that I will learn more if I go back to the corporate world. Then again, it’s not an area where I plan to develop my career. But who knows. Being young and wild, I still have the energy to explore many avenues and try out different things – and to find what I really love doing. However, what I’ve learnt so far is that you have a consistent voice – be it at work or in creative ventures – then you’re more likely to make strides somewhere as you’re (more) sure of what makes you tick.

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  4. Somali K Chakrabarti Avatar

    Dear Mabel, the openness in your post touches a chord, particularly the challenges of being creative, the time soent on it and if at all it is possible to make a living out of it. If the appreciation is only for a fleeting monent or is it something that creates a longer impact at some level is something that cannot be answered off hand. As much as I like to blog and enjoy the crearivity involved in the process, I also do have such doubts from time to time if the time spent is justifiable, and if not how to make it viable.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      ” The challenges of being creative” You summed up my post so well, Somali. Not a week goes by where I don’t think, “Is writing and blogging worth it”? The time we spent blogging and responding to comments can certainly be spent elsewhere, like getting that next job that will provide us with more stability in our life. Then again, through blogging, we get to travel the world with each post we read – and it’s so much cheaper than a plane ticket.

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  5. Constance - Foreign Sanctuary Avatar

    ‘We have to stand up to live before we can sit down and write. Likewise we have to sit down and figure out who we are before we can stand up to live.’

    That statement is true on so many levels. We can’t write about things if we didn’t experience them and we can’t experience life without a game plan in our mind.

    I can also relate to veering down the road less traveled. Your parents wanted you to pursue a career in math. I studied business and graduated from a reputable university, but I chose to move to Taiwan which is where I saw my life transpire and take shape. My decision to move here all those years ago cause a lot of conflict, tension, and resentment (something that I touch on in my book), but I did what I thought was best for me as we all only have one life to live. We only have one shot at it.

    And it was the best decision I have ever made as I have never once regretted my decision to this day!!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Some day that having a plan restricts spontaneity. But at the end of the day we can’t be rushing headlong into something just like that. There’s always something called reality.

      I am so happy and proud of you, Constance, for writing a book. It’s taken you a while but you’ve shown us all that if we keep doing what we love, we will get something out of it. Not the money bit, but self-worth and the confidence to be able to stand up for ourselves. And the move to Taiwan and adjusting to a new culture, that was all part of the journey 🙂

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  6. mikeyterrazas Avatar

    That a awesome quote that you used there Mabel. The first about sharing your weakness and being vulnerable. Am going to have to remember that one. I find it hard to blog and be creative because I guess it something new to me. Maybe because I’ve never been the person who use to sharing my thoughts, opinions, and feelings. On my other blog am always having difficulties coming up with content that I could write about. As for my photography blog, the challenging part is finding interesting subjects to photograph.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      The vulnerability-strength quote is certainly meaningful, isn’t it? We have to take the leap of faith to find out what we’re capable of. I’ve always loved your photos, especially the street photography ones. Great eye there, and I hope taking photos is always a great time for you.

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  7. Lani Avatar

    Congrats on hitting your 3year mark and getting your book done 🙂 Consistency and tenacity are not easily accomplished. I think we forget that from time to time! So enjoy it!

    Blogging is not hard, but that’s because writing is easy for me. But! Improving, trying new things and being creative is not as easy because I want to have a higher standard. I have this inner drive so it helps/hinders the process.

    I’ve been doing a lot of about-faces lately so I understand this post! Finding your way and sticking to what you want to do is no the middle road and that’s okay, you have to decide it’s what you want to do – or at least try.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It really doesn’t feel like 3 years hear. Time flies. I feel old in the blogging world, lol.

      You are certainly very hardworking, always setting a higher standard for yourself. But that is good because trying new things is seldom boring. If it is, then we learn what we’re really interested in and what matters to us – very important if we want to discover what kind of creativity we connect with.

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  8. Sue Slaght Avatar

    Mabel we are definitely on the same wave length this week. Blogging with a very engaged audience does take a lot of time to be sure. You always leave such thoughtful and reflective comments on my blog and others that I visit.
    I think because my blog has a wider focus it is easier to think of ideas to write about. also I don’t have a book that I am writing so I can not imagine how you manage to do that and work besides.
    I hope to read your work for many years to come but moreso I hope you are happy and finding balance in life.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I’ll admit I did feel a sense of déjà vu when I read your post on disappearing bloggers, having had this post prepped and ready to go. You do run a tight blog, Sue. Such great writing and beautiful in-the-moment photos, and I’m sure like me, you take time in advance and plan your posts week by week.

      There is such a great community of travel blogs here. I don’t know where my blog fits in, but thank you for supporting my blog and writing, Sue (and Dave…he needs some credit 😉 )

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      1. Sue Slaght Avatar

        Yes he definitely needs some credit. I probably should do more planning but I am not solid on that aspect. I think I would feel more settled to follow your good example.

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          I’ve always thought you were very organised with posts, Sue, posting around twice a week. Two years ago, I resolved to post twice a week but that never happened due to time. These days, I post much less but on the flipside I feel I have more time to think of what I want to say.

          I think it’s time Dave wrote another post – or two – for your blog and take the weight off your shoulders 😉

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          1. Sue Slaght Avatar

            Haha I will tell him that. He is actually pretty involved in the writing behind the scenes. Research, ideas for posts, selecting photos and definitely the editor.

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            1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

              …and we never really see it! Round of applause is certainly due for Dave. But, but, I’m sure it’s you who has the final say right before a post goes live 😉

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              1. Sue Slaght Avatar

                You have good insight. Yes I do the final read before hitting publish.

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                1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

                  No surprise because you were the founder of the blog and Dave just decided to tag along 😀

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  9. Sonel Avatar
    Sonel

    Mabel, first of all I must say that your photos are absolutely stunning! Really! You have such amazing talents. You’re definitely a professional photographer and also a fantastic writer. 😀

    You’re right, blogging doesn’t come easy and not only if you’re Asian. I find it very difficult to write about something and mostly stick to facts because I don’t want to be too personal. I am not a good writer and have always found it difficult to really explain how I feel. When I do, I always say something wrong and some people take it up the wrong way.

    I would say you are very, very creative. Look at your photos and your writing. You know just how to do it. I used to love being creative, especially with my photos but there were bloggers that put it upon themselves to let me know that they don’t like it. That I shouldn’t do this or I should do it that way, and when I let them know that I didn’t ask for their opinion and that I don’t post my photos to have them criticise it, I was told I was being over-sensitive and nasty things were said. I still don’t understand why they were like that and it stopped me from being creative. I used to love blogging, but don’t anymore.

    Your parents sound like such caring and loving parents, and they’re correct. Animators and Fashion Designers are just two I can think of. Some, like me won’t even pass maths, so I stand no chance. 😀

    Unfortunately in today’s world we sometimes have to do jobs we don’t like just to survive, because there’s not much money in being a professional photographer or artist. Not only Asians from minority backgrounds aren’t seen in the local media. It’s the same here in South Africa. If you’re not born into a rich and well-known family, you’re not part of the ‘Elite’. Some here would like to believe they are so ‘important’ and treat other people like dirt just because they aren’t. I can’t stand folks like that. Guess it’s why I prefer to be a hermit. 🙂

    Nature sure inspires us to be creative. Look how creative you were. The fantastic colours with the reflections on the water and the clouds! I have no words. It’s just amazing! 😀

    Criss Jami is right, but then you also learn what others are capable of and how nasty they can be. I don’t like to feel vulnerable because that is when people attack and their ugly words can stay with you forever. It’s not only in Chinese culture that showing emotion is seen as a weakness. Most of us South Africans are like that as well. Men for example are not supposed to cry and they are raised like that.

    I never cared for the statistics and just loved to share what I see around me. I will never be able to make a living from blogging and don’t want to either. I’ve seen too many of them that started out small, realised they can make money from it and became too high and mighty for the regular and plain bloggers like me. What I don’t like is the fact that they use regular and plain bloggers like me to give them better ratings. I stopped following them as I am not interested in being used.

    You are definitely in love with life Mabel. You do enhance its beauty and you definitely brings a little more dance to it. I think Osho was thinking of you when he said it. 😀

    That’s is all we can do. Notice the present and make more of it. We must go with the flow and see where it takes us. You definitely are doing all of it and I admire you for it. Fantastic post as usual and once again, amazing photo’s! 😀 ♥

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    1. Forestwoodfolkart Avatar

      Hi Sonel, Fabulous comment. I remember you making one of the posts where people had criticized your photos that and I wondered what happened to your blog after that. You disappeared for a while and then I lost track of your blog. It is utterly incredible that people can use a blogging venue to push an anonymous derogatory opinion and I am sorry you had to put up with that. I have not had any bad experiences with my blog so far, but have had attacking comments on other social media platforms. I hope you continue blogging as long as you enjoy it. Lovely comments and agree what you said about Mabel’s blog and post/s.

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      1. Sonel Avatar
        Sonel

        Hi Amanda, and thank you. The reason why I love Mabel’s blog so much is because she talks so much sense and I can really associate with what she says and then I can talk freely. Not something I can do on my blog and well, I don’t write as well as Mabel. She just have that talent to say what I feel most of the times. 😀

        It is incredible Amanda but at this stage I just don’t care what they think or say. I just delete their comments if I don’t like it, but it does spoil the fun that blogging is supposed to be.

        It seems that is what social media is mostly about. People waiting and watching just so they can say something nasty. Facebook is full of it as well. I am not very active there either.

        Thank you for the lovely wishes and I did close my Sonel’s Corner blog and opened a new one. I will definitely come and visit you again. I am still transferring some of my older posts to the new blog but it takes forever, as it’s very hot here and it makes me lazy. LOL!

        Thanks for the lovely comment as well. I am crazy about Mabel and her lovely posts. 😀 ♥

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    2. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      “have always found it difficult to really explain how I feel”. That is such an interesting thought and I think many of us feel that way deep down. Even the most outspoken among us tend to hold back from sharing the whole story of our lives whether through art or a day to day conversation.

      Thanks, Sonel. Maybe I am creative, but funny thing is most of the jobs I’ve worked in are numbers based and most I’ve applied for are not. Perhaps it’s a sign. Maybe I’m creative, but I’m so slow at writing. It takes me around two weeks to put together each blog post…then again, creativity takes time and thought.

      I am so sorry to hear that there are others out there who have attacked your blog and art. I remember you mentioning this in your blog. No one knows how hard it is to be artistically creative until they try. I do get opinionated comments quite a bit; culture and racism are sensitive topics. If they get personal, away they go and I move on to more positive things. No point giving them attention.

      I think having a day job we like helps us be creative. Having a job I like, I look forward to work and come back with happy vibes that translate over into my writing. And I’m not afraid to admit that it shows through my writing as of this year.

      Wouldn’t say I’m talented at photography. The shots in this post were all taken on the same day within half an hour. Wasn’t planning on shooting from this side of the river that evening but on a whim I decided too. And nature decided to put on a show 😀

      If you don’t know already, I am a huge fan of your photography. You photograph insects and monkeys so well. I hope you come back to blogging at some point, or at least showing more of your art. If not, I respect your decision and am very glad to have met a friend in you ❤

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      1. Sonel Avatar
        Sonel

        Thanks Mabel and yes, there are quite a few bloggers that I know that feels that way and being an introvert is not easy, especially when you decide to open yourself up, blog about what you do love and some people come and break it down. It does make me want to crawl back into my safe corner and stay there, but the stubborn Taurean in me makes it a bit difficult.

        I wish I had a head for numbers, but that is one talent I definitely don’t have and I have accepted that. Some of us are good with maths, others aren’t and that’s the way it is. We all have different talents and that make us so unique in every way.

        Yes, creativity isn’t easy most of the times. I for one loves playing around with different software and see what happens. 🙂

        Yes, those opinionated ones I know so well. Some people also think they are the only ones who are allowed to have opinions and others don’t. It’s better to turn out the personal ones to prevent a blog war. After all, your blog is about sharing your personal feelings and thoughts and not because you want to start a debate. 😀

        I think so too and it’s wonderful to have a job where you can be happy and come back home and still feel happy. Lots of people doesn’t feel that way anymore, but I think if they look for something to be happy for, they will find it.

        I would say you are definitely. You’ve got a great eye and I love your post-processing. Do you use Lightroom or Photoshop? I wish I could take shots like these, but I am not good at all with night shots. You and nature sure gave us a great show. 😀

        You’ve told me that several times and you’re so sweet. I do love the insects and monkeys and I did open another blog but didn’t advertise it. You can just right click on my name and it will take you to my new blog. I’ve done a few posts and are still busy putting up some of my older posts from my other blog, but that is a slow process, as WP messed up most of it in the export.

        I am also glad I found your blog and it’s wonderful to have such a great blogfriend. I do appreciate you and you are one of my most favourites for sure. ♥

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          “Some people also think they are the only ones who are allowed to have opinions and others don’t.” Exactly. I wonder why they think that way, and think that they are always right. After all, we all grow up in a different part of the world and have different opinion. The least we can do is respect each other’s perspective and more importantly work/art.

          I am a Taurean too. Very stubborn and perhaps that’s why I’m still blogging today 😀 This multicultural blog will probably get as good as this. I read somewhere that fashion blogs make the most money and have the most impact. But for me, blogging has never been about making money but sharing what matters to me.

          And that involves opening up about my lives. As you said, others can tear us down and that’s hurtful. No one deserves such malice for expressing and being themselves. Don’t know about you, but I’m hesitant about including people in my posts because of this reason. I usually ask them beforehand and if they say no, I completely understand.

          Picasa is my go-to software to edit my blog photos and usually do a few minor things like brightening and sharpening, as well as cropping. Photoshop Elements has been sitting on my laptop for a year and I experiment with it when time is kind 😀

          Thank you for stopping by as always, Sonel. You write the most insightful comments and they are always so nice to read. You really pick at my post from so many angles and it challenges me to keep up 😀 Off to check out your blog soon ❤

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          1. Sonel Avatar
            Sonel

            Exactly Mabel. Just because we have different beliefs, doesn’t make either of us wrong or right. We should just respect each others opinions and let it go, but most people must make a point of showing others that they are the ones that’s wrong. I can’t handle people like that and don’t like them either.

            Must be why we think in the same lines and tend to agree then. LOL! Same here as well. I want to show those nasties that I do have something to blog about, even if it’s just things inside my yard or down the road. I don’t like to drive around much anymore because of my little man who is getting too old to enjoy any of it anymore and because he is going blind, he wants to know I am near him when he is not sleeping.

            I just love your blog and your writing and believe me, I don’t really enjoy reading that much, so when I say I love your blog, I really do mean it. Your writing skills are excellent and so are the photos you share and there’s always something to talk about. You’re like my friend roughseasinthemed. Her posts are always just as interesting and intriguing.

            Well, I can promise you that those fashion blogs won’t make any money from me and my money would be on your blog – if I had any. LOL! I don’t care for fashion at all. Only about things that interest me. 😀

            Yes, unfortunately that’s the thing about most folks. The more they know about you, the more they can break down. Mainly the reason why I don’t trust easily and I totally agree with you. I still don’t understand why some folks feel the need to be hurtful but I guess that’s something we will never really know for sure. Some say it’s jealousy, others say different. Who cares? I say it doesn’t matter what’s going on in a person’s life, they shouldn’t take it out on others who doesn’t deserve it.

            I know Picasa and do have it but haven’t played around in it. My top favourite of all is definitely Corel PaintShop Pro. I guess it’s because I started with it. Photoshop is okay but I do find PSP much more user friendly. I do like to use Photoshop for the actions sometimes. 😀

            You are very welcome and thank you for always writing such great articles and for sharing your gorgeous and stunning shots! I really do enjoy visiting you sweetie. Do keep up with the excellent job you are doing, because I will miss you when you are not here. 😀 ♥

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            1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

              There is only so much nasty one can spread, and at the end of the day the nice people will win. Here at WordPress so many of us are supportive of each other although we all have different blogging habits and blogs. Some of us might not be active commenters on other blogs but I am pretty sure we give the hats off to fellow bloggers for all time and effort on here.

              I am so humbled. Thank you for reading my blog. Reading is certainly not everyone’s cup of tea – it could be something to do with education or some of us might just have a penchant for all things visual. Really, I am still finding my feet as a writer and especially figuring out how to make my posts deeper yet simple. And symbolism within art is something I’m trying to learn to 😀

              Your friend roughseasinthemed sounds like she has an interesting blog. I will check her out soon 😀

              I think if you used Picasa you would find it too easy for you. It really is very basic and doesn’t have a selector tool. Definitely looking forward to getting Photoshop 5 at some stage so I can edit raw files with it. Exciting. Take care, Sonel. Looking forward to more photos from you as always. You do close-ups so well.

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              1. Sonel Avatar
                Sonel

                I truly hope so Mabel. 🙂

                That I do find here at WP indeed. There are more nice people here than anywhere else. 😀

                I feel the same as you and want to thank you as well for spending time on my blog as well. It’s really much appreciated. 😀

                Definitely not mine, and only when I do find it interesting and something I can relate to. I don’t know about other people, but that is how I am. It does help when there’s something visual, like the stunning photos you always share with us. I do love it. 😀

                I think your posts are perfect just as they are and we all learn as we go along.

                She does indeed and just like you she is very intelligent, smart, classy and a great writer as well. I think you will enjoy her blog. 😀

                LOL! I like user-friendly software, then the easy part is easy. You should try Lightroom as well. I love the free presets you can get for it.

                You too Mabel and thanks for the lovely chat and looking forward to more of your excellent writing and gorgeous photos as well. You are very sweet and kind and I appreciate your lovely compliments. Thanks. 😀 ♥

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                1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

                  I don’t think I’ve ever seen so many smileys in a comment, Sonel. You have the honour of being the commenter on my blog who shares the most number of happy emoticons 😀

                  Thank you for you kind and nice words on my photos. I haven’t been taking photos for long, just started at the beginning of this year. And it’s only been three months since I discovered what the whole idea of “long exposures” are and how to take these shots. I think to get a decent shot, we need to be patient. Wait for the moment, and work with what’s going on around us. Photography is challenging, just as writing is challenging in its own way. They are certainly two different modes of creative expression ❤

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                  1. Sonel Avatar
                    Sonel

                    hahahah Mabel! Sorry, sometimes I do go overboard with the smilies. I do love them and I guess I can’t do anything without a smile all over. 😆 Guess that is why I love Incredimail so much as well. It has a lot of emoticons as well. 😀

                    You are very kind dear friend and for someone who just started, you definitely have a knack for photography and a great eye as well. What I love about photography is that you learn something new every day.

                    That is a fact. Patience is needed. Lots of patience. 😀

                    It sure is and it’s fun for sure. I can’t write at all. My mind wander too much and not all days are good days where my concentration is concerned. What I love about photography is that I can be creative in my way, and yes, that is true. Writing sure is a different mode of creative expression. 🙂

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          2. Sonel Avatar
            Sonel

            Before I forget again – congrats on the milestone Mabel. 3 years of keeping up a blog of this great standard is totally awesome! 😀 ♥

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  10. balroop2013 Avatar

    Hi Mabel,

    At the outset I would like to congratulate you for completing 3 years of being a blogger and such a successful and serious one! You have a large following! Wishing you more success in the years ahead.

    No wonder your post talks about the challenges of being a blogger! It is time to take stock, to introspect and garner more energy!

    I think there are two type of bloggers – those who blog to earn money and those who blog to give a vent to their creativity. The second category of bloggers often sit back to wonder all that you are talking about! Still they continue to blog because writing comes naturally to them, they have a lot to say and share, words set them free and when they write, they don’t think or care about time or money. Also, they blog at will, nothing but their own inner voice can guide them.

    Blogging can be really enjoyable if we keep it stress free and don’t set any specific goals. I have been blogging for two years and I am glad I have never felt the need to ‘roll with the punches’. I have let it flow as naturally as I can, only using my free time and never squeezing it in the hours I cannot afford to.

    Thanks for a wonderful perspective on blogging. Stay blessed, let your creativity flow.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You are so right, Balroop. There are indeed different types of bloggers. Some might think why not blog for money because money takes time, and it never hurts to get a bit of extra cash on the side. On the other hand some will ” blog because writing comes naturally to them” as you said, not caring about having their posts getting indexed by search engines or getting a certain amount of traffic. But no kind of blogging – or art – is wrong; they are each different paths and ventures.

      In all honestly, I thought of monetising my blog one and a half years ago and moving to self-hosted blog, putting ads here and all that. I thought about it long and hard, then came to the conclusion there was no real reason to monetise the blog (I’d only go as far as putting a few links to sponsors on my blog but in things I really believe in an relevant to the blog content here). Sure, extra money is nice but I do believe sharing straight from the heart is caring. Writing with your own voice as opposed to gaining views, not only will others appreciate that more but I reckon it makes us feel good too to be able to express ourselves freely.

      Good on you for blogging for two years. That is quite a while and you always manage to say the most insightful things about emotions and relationships. Your writer’s voice certainly shines through strong with each piece you publish. I always thought “roll with the punches” means to go with the flow. Then again, every phrase can be interpreted differently 🙂

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      1. balroop2013 Avatar

        I think rolling with the punches is forcing oneself to rise and face the punch, get hurt and wise but flowing is so pleasant…so satisfying and learning naturally, pushing and grinding all the boulders. 🙂

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          Such a literal interpretation of “rolling with the punches”. I never thought of it that way and it was always right in front of me. Both meanings applicable, yes, they certainly are. Love your insight, Balroop.

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  11. Alexandra Avatar

    three years is a great milestone, you should be so proud, Mabel … I think I’ve been following you for a year and I find you xtremely creative and organized, which both are quite a must in blogging, and most importantly – fun to read 🙂 love the shots in your post… gorgeous lights and reflections…

    for me blogging is about communication… hence you really need to stay honest and personal, despite the form of expression – writing, photography, home-made stuff… as long as you do that, I believe it all should flow smoothly 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You are right on the organised part. I do plan my blog posts in advance 😉 But creative? Perhaps a bit. It really take me a while to write a blog post I’m satisfied with and I always fumble with the camera when I’m out with it. I experimented with long exposure for this set of photos. So fun.

      Love the way you communicate your stories through your photography, both the happy and the sad times. So brave of you.

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  12. Peace.Love.Veggies Avatar
    Peace.Love.Veggies

    “To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring…a little more dance to it.” I love this quote! There is so much truth to it! I may have to use it one day lol. Great blog post Mabel as always! It isn’t always easy thinking of new content to write and every time you press publish, you’re baring your soul for everybody to see. Will they respond well? It’s always a little bit intimidating but as the other quote said showing vulnerability is strength. I find Asians to be incredibly creative! Particularly with photography and you have certainly shown your talents in that area! Perhaps the shy traits of Asians is usually why they don’t always show just how creative they can be but I’m glad you followed a passion instead of committing a life to crunching numbers which is never as fulfilling as nurturing your craft. Happy anniversary! It really is something to be proud of!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You might want to Google that quote because I didn’t put the whole of it here. The longer version is just as meaningful!

      Feeling creativity is one thing. Expressing creativity is another – and I think we have to be at peace with ourselves in order to express creativity in a level-headed manner.

      That is a great point. Shyness probably has something to do with Asians lacking confidence in pursuing the arts, and the fact that we are often told to be listen and be obedient. Which isn’t always bad… Hopefully I get to pursue a path where I truly love what I’m doing ❤

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  13. nimitode Avatar

    THANKYOU FOR THIS!
    Haven’t come across something so apt in a while now!
    Cheers to you, this is perfect!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      No, thank you, Nimitode. Thank you for the kinds words.

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  14. darwinontherocks Avatar

    I find it extremely hard to blog these days, especially since I’ve started a business (I create jewellery and I sell it on different craft markets). I just have no time for the blog anymore. It’s very sad…. I’m so impressed you managed to write on this blog for 3 years.. with so much dedication. Well done 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      No wonder I haven’t been seeing you around there. I really like your blog 😦 But very happy to hear that you have your own business! Good luck with it and if it’s possible, I would like to check out some of the stuff you make 🙂

      Blogging takes time. Writing the blog, responding to comments, commenting on other blogs all takes up more time than we think. Then again, there is always a life out there to be lived ❤

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      1. darwinontherocks Avatar

        I know, I feel terribly sorry for not having been able to check out blogs these last few months. I’m still in the process of taking pictures for my website, it is also very time consuming 🙂 Everything you do, if you do it well, requires a lot of time and blogging is no exception 🙂

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          Awww. You’re so focused on your business and that is so nice to hear. Such dedication there and I really hope it will do well 🙂 A lot of the time I don’t know if I can keep up the blog. From blogging every week and now to once a month…well, we will see 😀

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  15. Mamta Chakravorty Avatar

    Very sensitive and delicate topic, Mabel. I have not told my family or friends about my writing aspirations yet. No one in my family (other than my husband) or friends read my posts. They do not think it is a serious business 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Like you, I have not told my family about my writing and blog. Like you, they don’t think it’s a serious thing and have told me that a long time ago – and I stopped talking about it to them. By keeping my writing mainly to myself and a few friends, I’ve felt nothing but positive energy towards it. So, high five 😉

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  16. Dalo 2013 Avatar

    An absolutely fascinating topic for this post. Creativity is such a strange monster ~ it seems we battle it often, fear it in many ways but in the end I think such suffering is needed to be creative.

    My favorite part of your post was the discussion on creativity “Creativity is about seeing the light, connecting ideas. It’s about discovering solutions to problems and seeing the same thing in different shades and from different angles.” as this is EXACTLY what photography means to me…the steps/feeling needed to pass on emotion into the photograph (the creativity). From all the great work I see in the WP Community and internet in general, there is a certain need to think out of the box, and then be bold enough to do it.

    I do think you are correct in saying Asians (in my experience Chinese specifically) to think out of the box as they are taught from an infant not to think out of the box (and such thinking can lead to horrible consequences…). In a sense, I think China has lost 2 generations of people to this thought (I believe the current young generation understand that being bold is necessary…and are battling with their elders on this.

    Sigh…and for blogging. Yes, it can be difficult to be creative – and this is why I love it as it puts pressure on my creative side to think, battle and then churn something out 🙂 Cheers to a happy spring season for you!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Indeed. Creativity is a monster, one big beast. Spot on. When we go through challenges, we are forced to look for a way out. And I guess that’s where creativity often manifests.

      I loved how you tied in the interpretation of creativity with photography. That was exactly how I felt when I took these shots all in half an hour one evening not too long ago. Doing long exposures takes a lot of visualising and guesswork too – and how to work with the elements and put my feelings into the images.

      There is comfort in thinking and acting in cycles in Chinese culture. Routine sort of symbolises a steady life today, whereas in the past with all the revolutions times were extremely tough and certainly unpredictable.

      Don’t think I’ve mentioned this before, but I am very inspired by your blog, both the philosophical text and sharp photography as well as the narrative you weave through each post. A reason why these days I take my time to churn out a post here. Enjoy your favourite season, fall 🙂

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  17. CrazyChineseFamily Avatar

    Usually I have no troubles coming up with new topics for my blog. Most of the times words just flow when I start writing. However there are also over days or weeks where I can not write anything good. I might write something but it will be deleted later on as it just feels too hollow somehow. Especially bad are days when I can’t even think about a topic! Thankfully such days are happening not too often thus far 🙂
    I think it is slowly changing in the Chinese culture about not showing emotions etc. Afterall there are millions of micro blogs on weibo and other platforms where people share their everyday life. Of course change wont happen anymore with the older generations however each younger generation has a higher chance to grow up at bit more “free” but then again there will be always the educational pressure in Asian countries

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      “as it just feels too hollow somehow” I feel that quite a lot too, actually. I would start writing a post and then think it doesn’t make sense, or lacks evidence or doesn’t sound exciting.

      I would have always thought for you, if you get stuck on writing, think of MIL and there you will have a blog post and some good writing. Or you can always make up a story and put MIL in it 🙂

      That is a great point. People are more bold about expressing themselves in China and other parts of Asia. Funny how a good education is still esteemed in Asian cultures. That usually equates to opportunities, which is very practical.

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      1. CrazyChineseFamily Avatar

        I am just wondering now how many articles I have deleted over the past two years. Sometimes they dont happen in months and other times I have them on many days

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  18. Forestwoodfolkart Avatar

    HI Mabel, An illuminating and thought -provoking post. Like others who have commented, I also think blogging and writing is extremely creative. Your blog posts are creating entirely new pieces of writing that has not been done before. What a great contribution you have made to cross cultural communication. It is far too easy to fall into the trap of self-doubt. I always find your blog interesting, information and entertaining. And what a fantastic photo you have posted today. Excellent capture of the Melbourne skyline. Mabel, some of us will never make a lot of money off blogging, but if blogging and the little community you create through your blog, give you joy and fulfill a place in your life that has meaning, that alone is worth more than money can buy! Thanks for being here, Mabel!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Wise words. I think you define the worth of art so well – sharing for the passion of it and bringing others together. It is funny people keep saying I’m creative since I struggle each week to write each post and think of it from various angles, and it’s a slow process. Then again, rushing things usually doesn’t get us far.

      When I started to blog, all I wanted to do was share my writing. And perhaps, just perhaps, debate about culture with a small number of readers. I think I’ve already achieved that, and perhaps that’s as good as it will get.

      Thanks for the nice words, Amanda. Glad you like the photos too. I’ve been experimenting with photography lately. Always a challenge to link photos with the topics that I write here. But so fun.

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      1. Forestwoodfolkart Avatar

        Don’t doubt your ability, Mabel! Why else would there be so many readers and commenters of your blog unless it was great writing! You also have a unique ‘voice’ amongst the blogs I read on wordpress!

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          As hard as I’ve tried to find, I can’t seem to find similar blogs like mine. While that makes me stand out, a lot of the time it would be great to be part of a network along the lines of “expat”, “travel”, “vegan”, you get the picture. My blog really doesn’t fit in anywhere and I do struggle to describe it to others.

          I don’t know if anyone feels the same way on their blogs, but I do get shy when it comes to responding to comments on here 😳

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          1. Forestwoodfolkart Avatar

            It is hard to search for other blogs, and perhaps the blogging world is a bit individualised. I just came across a blog that had over 33,ooo followers! Can you imagine? And you know what, Mabel. It lacked worthwhile content, the blogger was just very good at promoting the blog on social media! I started a facebook group for people who practise the obscure art of Rosemaling, and it has grown to a huge group sharing discussions, pictures etc. Would you consider something like this? And if not, celebrate and embrace your uniqueness! You mention shyness, is that because you prefer to keep personal details private from the blog domain ( which is very public)?

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            1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

              That blog certainly has a lot of followers. Amazing. But having followers is one thing, getting them to engage with your blog content is another altogether.

              Very, very happy for you Amanda. So nice to hear your group on Facebook has grown to a close knit community. Social media is something I’ve never managed to crack and I have thought about it…either that or people are intimidated by the topic of multiculturalism. I suspect both.

              When people leave comments, quite often I’m hesitant to reply, shy to respond…it is almost too good to be true that people are responding to what I put on here. But you are right too, in that I like keeping parts of my life personal 🙂

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              1. Forestwoodfolkart Avatar

                And there is nothing wrong with keeping parts of our life private, in fact, I think it is entirely prudent. I would not want to bare all over the net to complete strangers. Identity theft is real. But then again, one can write about all sorts of things without discussing private details. It has taken a few years to get 1000 members into my social media group, but I started out with about five friends!

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                1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

                  Over 1,000 members is certainly very impressive. Though it may be a while, it is still something. I’m sure it will continue to grow and it sounds like a one of a kind group. Wonderful.

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  19. Photography Journal Blog Avatar

    Honestly, I do find it hard to blog and be creative. I love my blog, but have to be careful that it doesn’t take over all the time that I have for my creative endeavors. I really enjoyed this post.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      So, so, true. Blogging is time consuming. With a photography blog like yours, it takes time to edit photos for each post. I really enjoy your before/after photos and love how you take us through your creative process, literally.

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      1. Photography Journal Blog Avatar

        Thank you for your kind comment. Like you, I try to schedule my time on the blog and not get to carried away.

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          Very wise, Amy. That way, you certainly have time to go out there and take photos, and do what you love.

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  20. Rajagopal Avatar

    Congrats for the three blogging years behind you, Mabel, you are cute, petite and full of zest. It shows up in your writings, visuals and the interested readership you already have. I do not consider blogging as a money spinner; I started doing it from just a couple of years ago because I like to write and the exhilaration it brings, in the manner of an insignificant Michelangelo chipping away on a block of stone to get as close to the perfect sculpture as I possibly can. Quit worrying about it being a waste of time, for it is not, and do not be concerned about your output retaining its value over the long haul, as anything crafted with zest and love will eventually find a befitting place in the pages of posterity. So just keep at it as there is nothing more fulfilling…best wishes.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      “full of zest” I love that expression, and I take that as a compliment. Thank you. Love the Michelangelo example. The more we focus on refining our craft as to how our heart tell us, the more honest it will be and the more others will gravitate to it. Six sense often tells us when someone is being genuine or deceitful. Love conquers all at the end of the day, too, and things will fall into place. Agree with you on that.

      Your passion for philosophy shines through your writing and blog, and that’s why I keep coming back to your work. Keep writing and keep thinking, Raj.

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  21. Marta Avatar

    Blogging takes a lot of time and sometimes it is hard to find inspiration! I only blog for fun, I don’t intend to earn money with it or be a writer, but if I can’t think of something to write about at least once a week, I feel like a failure!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      So long as it’s fun, why not do it. When it’s no longer fun and we feel stressed by it, I think it’s time to stop. There’s more to life than just doing one thing.

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  22. Amy Avatar

    Like most of bloggers, I do posts outside my FT jobs, so there is a limitation. Writing takes creative thinking, there are so many other things people do take enormous creativity. Sometime people are creative, but they don’t think they are. Great topic. Your photos are incredibly! 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Really admire you how you can keep up such amazing photography and blogging outside your job. It never is easy because when we think creatively, we think from different angles and it takes time to connect the dots.

      Admire you for putting up around a post a day and responding to all the comments too. You really plan your time well 🙂

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  23. Matthew Curry Avatar

    You do a very good job, Mabel. And I love the Criss Jami quote. It’s so true.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      That Criss Jami quote is really a great quote. Glad you like it. I think you do a great job at drawing, Matt. Your sketches are always so life-like, and you’re so creative designing and shading your sketches.

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  24. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder Avatar

    You’ve written so true words here and, I can relate with most of them. It is really hard at times to be creative, mostly when I’m hesitative enough to share my ideas with the world. Thoughts come and go, I see the same thing in different hues, but it’s not easy to weave them into words. I write for my own happiness and when someone praises my musings it feels really great. 🙂

    Congrats on completion of three great years of blogging, Mabel. Your pictures are breathtakingly beautiful… 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Thanks so much, Maniparna. “Thoughts come and go” Excllent point. A lot of my good ideas come when I’m in the shower or when I’m just about drifting off to sleep 😀 You do write great poetry. I enjoy your poems and wish I found your blog earlier. Maybe it’s easier to write shorter sentences… 😉 I’ve been trying new things with my camera lately. Thank you for the nice words.

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      1. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder Avatar

        Thank you 💞 Yes, I think it’s easier to write shorter sentences 😛 and bingo, thoughts do come when I’m just drifting into sleep..most of the times, I fail to remember the whole of it. 😀

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          And when you fail to remember that awesome string of words, you get annoyed at yourself 😀 That happens to me when I say I will remember the idea…but never do. Ah, well. Creativity comes and goes. It’s weird that way 😀

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  25. autumnashbough Avatar

    Oh, yes, how I wish my husband’s Chinese parents hadn’t pressured him to be an engineer, just because he’s exceptional at math. I think he’d rather be a chef, or a farmer. But now he’s addicted to his paycheck and I’m not sure he’ll ever be able to let it go.

    On the other hand, sometimes I wish I had chosen a career with less rejection and more benefits. Next life, I might sell insurance. 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I’m sure Andy is a very good engineer and is good at his job…well, if you spend so much time on something then I suppose that is usually the case. I hope he knows to walk away from the job at times and do others things too 🙂

      I’ve always heard selling insurance was hard. Anything pushing sales is hard and usually a game of luck.

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  26. Behind the Story Avatar
    Behind the Story

    This is such a beautiful post, Mabel. First of all, you have such a good insight into creativity. “… seeing the light, connecting ideas… discovering solutions to problems and seeing the same thing in different shades and from different angles.” Beautiful.

    Also I love this quote from author Osho: “To be creative means to be in love with life. You can be creative only if you love life enough that you want to enhance its beauty, you want to bring…a little more dance to it.”

    This is very close to what I believe. An author’s greatest task and greatest blessing is in sharing an appreciation for life and the world.

    I think we’re all a little worried about opening up to strangers, about writing what we feel and showing our weaknesses. My family has been supportive, but my Chinese in-laws have not. I think they’re angry that I have a blog, especially since I mention my husband so often in my posts. Ever since I published a novel about China, they’ve been giving me the cold shoulder. Maybe they think it’s not my place to write a Chinese story so intimately related to them.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      For a long time, I wondered why writers writer, why musicians play their instruments, and why every artist creates. Sharing, it really is all about sharing, isn’t it? It’s about making a difference in the smallest of ways, being driven by the passion of the heart as opposed to greed that often manifests around us.

      I am sorry to hear that your in-laws are not supportive of your writing endeavours. Some still think that if you are not of a certain race, you aren’t fit to right about a certain culture or place. When I want to include or quote people in my writings, I like to ask them if they mind. If they do, I will be a bit disappointed and choose not to include them. That can be limiting I found when it comes to elaborating on an idea you have.

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  27. CL (RealGunners) Avatar

    You’re obviously not a nerd. Which is a good thing I suppose. If you are a nerd, then “And there’s creativity in maths and science too” would make absolutely perfect sense. One day, being creative using maths and science might save your life when you’re stranded in Mars by yourself. (Sorry, I’m still semi-engrossed in that book’s world)

    I seldom worry about being creative when I blog. You don’t need to be creative to be interesting. You just need to be unique. And I believe everyone in the world is unique in their own way, so you will be unique just by being yourself, and writing as you mean it.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      What, I am not a nerd? I always thought I am…I genuinely believe there’s creativity in maths and science. Always admired programming and how it powers practically each technologies these days. It’s powerful.

      I think you said it. “You don’t need to be creative to be interesting. You just need to be unique….” Great paragraph there and I believe you have the creativity and capacity to share more philosophical ramblings 😀

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  28. Alka Avatar

    Three years of blogging. Now that’s a milestone. Congratulations Mabel! Life is made of small and big achievements.

    Yours is a nice blog in a unique sense. Not only that there are niche topics with well-researched focused information that readers find useful but also that the language is appropriate for blogging. Multi-cultural non-fiction writing plus photography – you can continue to hone these two and done! But then again, blogging will take even the best blogger only where it has a capacity to take. Probably a well-established blog will now help you with your upcoming book which I’m sure will take off well.

    There’s truth in your statement: ‘We have to stand up to live before we can sit down and write. Likewise we have to sit down and figure out who we are before we can stand up to live.’

    Do I find it hard to blog? I am in no position to discuss my own blog yet, as it is comparatively new; moreover mine is an unplanned blog with very random spontaneous posts that do not take long to write. About being creative…well I’m no judge of my creativity. You know better how I write.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts about blogging. Probably you have observed by now, that I too keep thinking along these lines; blogging or no blogging…how much blogging…how many blogs 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It takes times to blog. Researching the topic from different angles is never easy because there is bound to be different perspectives all round. I’m sure you can understand, writing poetry and fiction. There can be various fictional storylines you can run with and it can be hard to pick which one to go with.

      I think your blog is unique in that you write what’s on your mind and tie that closely to what we experience in our day to day lives. Not all writers do that well.

      Thanks, Alka. I never gave much thought to my first and second blog anniversaries. Third time’ s the charm, and this one really feels special. As for my book, I don’t know if people will buy it – especially Australia – but it never really is about the numbers for me as long as I can get by. “Multi-cultural non-fiction writing plus photography” Love how you describe my blog. I really do. Thank you 🙂

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  29. Master of Something Yet Avatar

    So much of what you wrote rings true for me too. I think a creative life is challenging for most of us. Before I fell into Special Ed teaching, I was working as an office secretary for minimum wage. It was pretty boring but I didn’t mind because I saw it as a means to an end. It gave me the funds to go to my community singing group, to buy a banjo and join an instrumental group and it paid for other endeavours both creative and non-creative (but things I really wanted to do). I think it’s the lucky few who get to make a living out of their creativity. For the rest of us, the job pays the bills and we use our spare time for our creative life. If we can find that spare time. Sometimes it’s more sparse than spare.

    Very thought-provoking post, Mabel. Also, you make Melbourne look so pretty!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      “as a means to an end” This is such an important phrase and train of thought, and glad you brought it up, Heather. All our roles in life are interconnected and feed off each other in some way. At the end of the day, the world does not revolve around us.

      I had no idea you gave the banjo a go. I’ve always wanted to try it along with the mandolin. Perhaps I’ll do so after my book is finally on the shelves… 😀 Glad you like the photos. Thank you! It’s all Melbourne on show!

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  30. Jessica Avatar

    I love the way you crafted this post, Mabel. I understand (at least a little) some of the cultural aspects that make creativity especially difficult for Asians. You’re right that taking a creative or artistic path is risky. There are no guarantees, especially not financially. But I want to congratulate you on your dedication these past few years. Your blog has grown substantially, and your writing has, too. It is a joy to read your words.

    You inspire me with how you plot your life and the fact that you’re writing your book. I guess life gets more complicated when you’re not living alone — I find it difficult to find time to write anything at all, even on the weekends. There is just always something going on…

    As a side note: It’s hard for a northern-hemisphere girl like me to comprehend that it could be winter in July! Someday I hope to see the beautiful country you live in.

    Happy Weekend!!

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      There have been many a time where I thought should I keep this blog going? Should I even keep writing given my up and down relationship with it? I made a compromise earlier this year – blog less. Even so, putting together each post still takes time. Only time will tell what will become of all this.

      I’ve always looked up to you and your writing, Jess. Your blog was one of the first I followed and I was so floored to have a writer like you follow my blog. Also, your poetry is always ace. Hope all is well with you 🙂

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      1. Jessica Avatar

        You are so sweet! You’ve picked a great blog topic that is sure to engage readers all around the world, so I’m definitely glad you decided to keep it going!! My own goal is to blog more. I just can’t seem to keep the pace I want to. But that’s why they say you should take things one day at a time, eh? Happy weekend!

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          There is always so much to be said about culture and the way we choose to live our lives and treat each other. But really, it’s also very much an intimidating topic. I’m amazed you chose to narrate some of your poems for us to hear. I don’t think I can ever narrate my own posts. But, as you said, one thing at a time 🙂

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  31. realplacespeoplestories Avatar
    realplacespeoplestories

    You certainly have to be creative to blog. For me I think I have so much ideas and so much to write, that it is not a problem. And for you it doesn’t seem to be one either. I love your creativity when it comes to your topics.

    I had no idea that in Chinese culture, showing emotion is seen as a sign of weakness or losing control. I know that the chinese people I have met did not show too much emotions, but I did not know this was the reason. That is very interesting. Then I would not be seen well in the chinese culture, that is for sure.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You have no idea how hard it is for me to come up with topics for my blog. I do have a notebook where I jot down post ideas but I still feel short of ideas. And when I look back at the ideas, I don’t feel like writing about them and feel stuck 😀

      Growing up in a Chinese-Malaysian family, my parents taught me not to cry when things went wrong. They didn’t comfort me when I burst into tears over something I was upset in at school and instead told me to stop it. In short, in Chinese culture, showing emotion is seen as shameful in a sense…and so creativity shameful in a sense since when you do art, you often bare your soul. Showing emotion is also sort of like “showing off” too…

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        realplacespeoplestories

        Haha, but atleast you always end up with great topics 😉

        That is so interessting for me to know… I had no idea of that. In Norway we are known for not showing too much feeling either. But in latin america where I lived so long now, wow, they show so much. In Brazil, men cries and show so much feelings, so it is interessting to see the difference…

        Btw, your pictures of the city are beautiful! 🙂

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          So interesting to hear. When people show feeling and affection, it can be very beautiful. That way it’s also easier to tell how they are feeling 🙂

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  32. maamej Avatar
    maamej

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts & vulnerabilities in this. Seems like it’s a common tension for bloggers, between spending the time on blogging, and being out there and active in the world. I struggle with many of the things you mention, but I guess the chance to express my creativity is what keeps me blogging, even if a bit irregularly these days. I like how your different pics of the same scene convey how an important part of creativity is “seeing the same thing in different shades and from different angles.” I also love the quote from Osho.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      In the three years I’ve been blogging, I’ve seen bloggers come and go. It’s sad to see a blog that you love following and one day the blog comes to an end. Then again, our responsibilities in life can be demanding and it’s one reason why I’ve cut down blogging to around once or twice a month :/ I shot all these photos in one evening. It was lucky timing that day.

      I really enjoy your blog, Maamej. You really have a knack for tying what you want to say to cross-cultural ties. And it’s really cool to have connected with another Australian blog about culture.

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        maamej

        Thanks Mabel, I agree, very cool (and sadly rare) to be able to connect with another Australian blogger on these important issues.

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          I often wonder if the blogging scene is that active in Australia compared to the States. Then again, it depends on what kind of blog.

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          1. maamej Avatar
            maamej

            Well they would have a lot more bloggers just by population, but it does seem like in Australia there’s less variety in the kind of blogging.

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            1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

              Good point on the population. The Writer’s Center do have a community set up for Australian bloggers. It really does encourage us all to blog, but what you say is also very true.

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              1. maamej Avatar
                maamej

                That’s good to know about the writer’s centre. I joined a couple of Facebook groups but most of the other members do monetized blogs on stuff I have no interest in.

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                1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

                  We all have to make a living some way… Then again, monetising blogs makes blogging competitive.

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  33. Imelda Avatar

    I have found that blogging is quite a serious and tedious work. If one does not enjoy it immensely, he/she can easily get discouraged because blogging, in general, does not pay. It is easy to be overcome by discouragement and by thoughts that it is just a big waste of time.

    Speaking from experience, I have been lazy about blogging the last few months because I got burned out. I lost my inspiration and motivation. I lost my words and ideas. I felt that I have put down all the words I know in my blog and that I could no longer arrange them to make new posts. This, and the reason stated above, put blogging at the bottom of my priorities as I devoted my energies on pursuits that I thought are more productive.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      That is so true. If we aren’t enjoying what we’re doing, it’s hard to keep up and if we do, it’s grudgingly. There are some things that money can’t buy, though. Trust, community, love are just some of those things…which are a few things that can be found here in the blogging world when we stick around.

      Sorry to hear that you got burned out from blogging :/ I am sure ideas will come rushing back to you soon. Live life, because there is so much to discover out there as opposed to just sitting behind a computer screen 🙂

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      1. Imelda Avatar

        🙂 🙂 Thanks, Mabel.

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  34. Marko Avatar

    Hello
    I wish you a nice weekend!

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      Thanks for stopping by, Marko. Always so kind and thank you for the well wishes!

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  35. Ray Avatar

    Yes. It’s hard enough for anyone to be creative in this world, but some cultures even harder. It’s certainly hard for me. But I’m used to it by now and writing has become a compulsion. (While drawing has unfortunate fallen by the wayside) That’s just me.

    It’s true that only a few select people get to become professional artists and writers and musicians, but I think that’s no reason not to pursue one’s passions. Why not have a day job that pays the bills, but that day job doesn’t consume you and a well-rounded person has other hobbies to make themselves happy? What’s wrong with that?!

    Apparently the issue in Asia — which correlates to your blog — is that even in technology fields there is a lack of innovation. A lot of good technical skill but not new inventions to keep up with the West/Silicon Valley…

    Anyway, keep on pursuing your passions and write away! As for photography, looking forward to seeing where Mr. Wobbles ends up next 🙂

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I think it’s hard for everyone. It’s hard for everyone to juggle all their responsibilities in life, which includes what they love doing. But I agree with you. No matter how challenging life gets, there’s no reason why we can’t pursue our passions. Even if it’s just putting aside half an hour for it each day. That’s something to look forward to every day.

      Sorry to hear drawing has to be put the side for you. It must be bittersweet. A few years ago, I decided to put music to the side and focus on writing. I gave up piano lessons, and it was hard but I don’t have regrets. And any art can be self-taught.

      Thanks, Ray. Mr Wobbles hasn’t been going much anywhere 😉

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  36. Sony Fugaban Avatar

    I suddenly remember the first few posts I published, Mabel. That time when what I tend to share were just murmurs of my wandering mind–from rants to anything under the sun. I find blogging to be easy then. Being creative? No. I consider that word to be “spontaneous”.

    Then I came across travel stories being frequently featured on WordPress’ Freshly Pressed Page. I fell in love with that kind of story so I shifted from prattles to travel stories. That was when the real challenge came in.

    I was so struggling. The stories I came up with weren’t even stories but mere notes of what transpired during my travels. Then it developed into no more than literal narrations of how I got to a summit or a particular destination. Such that I copied stuff from other bloggers’ stories for my backgrounder, with citations of course, and worst case scenario, for the most interesting part of my stories.

    But as I was hitting the road and braving the outside so to speak more and more, my eyes developed some kind of special vision. The one that enabled me to look beyond the things I see around. I realized every place holds a treasure trove of insights. I’ve learned to dig that treasure. I’ve learned to apprehend the significance of a place, what it mirrors to us; it made all the difference.

    As I progress though, I noticed that the challenge is also progressing. I no longer want to just write based on how a travel story should be written but how I make sense to the world, to the people to who read my stories. The challenge now is being able to not just incorporate but translate the lessons, ideas, and life-changing views from different experiences that usually emanate from the ordinary. This is where blogging and being creative becomes extremely difficult. Hence, I still see my travel stories as a work in progress.

    Be that as it may, I will keep on working my ass off to do better at my craft.

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      Thank you for sharing the history of your blog, Sony, and for being very honest about it. Your comment was a surprising read because I’ve always admired the way you write your posts and your detailed descriptions, as well as your stickler to grammatical conventions.

      Such an important thing you brought up there: your blog, and our blogs, our creativity, experiences and thoughts, change over time. Although you write more about food and English these days, I still see your blog as a travel blog. We travel every day; we travel through ordinary moments and learn a bit more about the world more than we realise. And that really is what your blog is about 🙂

      It really is very nice to know a blogger who as been with me from the start. Your “Freshly Smithed” blog has been such an inspiration to me. Not just the fact you write widely on a variety of relatable topics but your dedication to blogging all this while. My hat’s off to you.

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  37. roughwighting Avatar

    What a great blog readership you have! I have been blogging about the same time as you. I find blogging a fabulous way to be creative, to share my little space in the world, and my ‘flashes’ of what I see, think, create. Like you, I also like to share my photographs. Keep it up! Being creative is one of the joys of living.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Thanks, Pamela. Blogging is certainly a great way to be creative – we can share anything we like here and what floats our boat. So nice to see you sharing your writing on your blog, and lovely to see you have so many encouraging readers. With blogging comes community if we are respectful and encourage each other 🙂

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  38. Traveller at heart Avatar
    Traveller at heart

    Congratulations on making the 3rd year mark as a blogger.

    I have enjoyed reading your blog and your responses to bloggers’ comments. You have a great voice. Keep it up!

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      Thank you for your well wishes! I love writing and hope to share more of that here in the future.

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  39. Julie Avatar

    I’ve been writing on a blog since I was in high school and there was a lull period during university and then I slowly came back after I graduated. When I was in uni I guess because I was studying science, I didn’t feel like I needed to explore my creativity and I simply didn’t have the time. After I graduated and decided to write on my blog again, it was such hard to do because I pretty much no longer exercised that muscle anymore.

    There’s just something about blogging that makes it so much better than writing and sharing photos on social media. Maybe because I feel like I own my content or maybe because uploading photos on the blog are much higher quality than uploading on Facebook on instagram.

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      Great to hear that you persisted with blogging though you found it hard when you came back to it. I think the hardest part about blogging – or doing anything really – is starting it. A lot of the time we doubt ourselves when really we have nothing to love.

      That is an interesting point. I think we put much more thought into our blog posts than our posts on social media, and so are more likely proud of what we blog about and more inclined to spend time here when we get into the groove of blogging.

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  40. themofman Avatar

    Interesting viewpoint. I never looked at creative blocks as due to a race or culture.

    On a different note; Woolworths! Now there’s a name I haven’t heard in my neck of the woods in quite some time.

    Also, I love your shots of Melbourne.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Woolworths is a national grocery store here, and many Australians call it Woolies for short. Thanks, Mofman. I had so much fun doing these long exposures that evening. Clouds in the sky, that was perfect.

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  41. Hoarder Comes Clean Avatar

    One big advantage of blogging: it’s good exercise for the writing muscles. It keeps us thinking, keeps the creative fire going in small do-able bursts. (Sometimes we need a break from editing longer manuscripts, and any kind of writing we can do keeps us in the race, right?) Meanwhile, I’m mesmerized by that pinky-violet tower in your gorgeous photos.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You’re the second person to mention “muscles”. Creativity is certainly a muscle in itself too. When I started blogging three years ago, I struggled to come up with content for each post. These days, I feel like I have a lot to say – but i still have trouble coming up with topics to write, though…

      The pinky-violet tower is part of what is called the Arts Centre. That’s where all sorts of performances like theater, opera, orchestra, dance and comedy are held all year round.

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  42. Linda Avatar

    What an amazing post, Mabel, and the photos are beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing, I have learned something new today. 🙂

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      Thank you, Linda, for your kind words and for stopping by. You don’t know how much I appreciate it. Wishing you well 🙂

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  43. Jean Avatar

    I am the one in the family of 6, who chose a university degree in the arts (English Literature), then did my master’s in library and information science which is a social science– there is quantitative analysis in performance measurement for services and content/data product usage.

    Other 5 siblings did their degrees in applied/hard sciences.

    I didn’t feel ever being “less” creative but simply I had to staunch a lot of creativity in self expression and fine visual arts because of the reality to earn a living.

    While it’s true that Asian parents tend to want their children to do the best…which translates in professional jobs or “established” middle class white collar jobs, I don’t quite agree that there are also parents who have strongly supported their child’s artistic endeavours…look to the international figure skaters from North America..some of them…are Asian descent. Or in music.

    I don’t find it hard to be creative, just need some large blocks of time. With each decade, I actually have it easier to be freer on self-expression.

    Most definitely I see my blogging as partially an expression of my creativity with a some logic, since good writing requires persuasion of the reader.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      It sounds like you are the odd one out in the family, Jean. But props for you for doing what you love. It never really is that easy.

      I think many parents aim to give their children a well-rounded education. It is probably why many a typical Asian parent in Asia pushes their kid to do a ton of extra-curricular activities after school, such as maths tutoring. music, dancing, karate lessons – all for the sake of providing their kids with current and future opportunities.

      Like you, I find that I need chunks of time to get in the creative groove. High five.

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      1. Jean Avatar

        Hey, I hope you will reveal to some family members about what you write on an ongoing basis. It is an important integral part of you and who you are. And how you give back to the world.

        I do send occasionally link to a new blog post to family members. I don’t expect them to read it or look at deeply.

        But the creativity is a big part of me…for a long time. They know this. Occasionally some told they don’t like care for some of my stuff. I am very careful to choose photos that don’t immediately make people easily recognizable nor do I give their names at all.

        My personal blog is actually the ONLY place where family members living 3,000 km. west of me, see what I’ve seen while travelling or my artwork, what I produce. We don’t use facebook amongst ourselves. I actually think to FB my activities without much text, would really irritate them. On a blog, one has time articulate, persuade in words..

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          Like you, I don’t expect my family or even friends to read my blog. Some of my friends do and that is always very encouraging. Then again, I write pretty lengthy posts and it really isn’t everyone’s cup of tea and I understand that.

          It’s great to hear you connect with family through your blog, Jean. Maybe it’s a generational thing. My generation or the younger generation are more into visual blogs like the ones on Tumblr.

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          1. Jean Avatar

            I’m not sure if I’m proof of my generation: I don’t use Tumblr at all. I like looking at decent art blogs where the blogger-artist sometimes discusses creative matters.

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            1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

              Personally I find it hard to find blogs that provide analytical views on art and culture. I don’t know why. Perhaps I’m looking in the wrong places, or am not looking hard enough. But glad to hear you do find inspiration online.

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                  Thanks for sharing, Jean. Jann certainly has an interesting blog.

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  44. Indah Susanti Avatar

    Congratulations on your three years blog anniversary! I think you have done excellent job in blogging!

    About being creative, hm, to be honest for my case, I just wish I have time just to do “the end result of being creative” – I know, it’s lame excuse, blame it on lack of time and work 😀 I have wordpress blog since 2007, it went in silent mode until early 2014, when I started to blog regularly. But even on my seven years of silence in blogging, I kept taking pictures, and put my writings into notes. The creativity is always there but to create time to work on it and publish it as “the end result of being creative” is another story. Most of the time, it is the time that gets me on the way to be fully creative..

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      I love your blog so much, Indah. It is such a focused blog on diving, underwater photography and travel and I love how you interact with your readers. “put my writings into notes” So interesting to hear you say you write down notes. I need to get into the habit of that more.

      Time. That is both a blessing and a curse. We’re always busy and we think we’re productive, yet we yearn for time to do what we love. Thank you for the nice words. I am very flattered that you follow my blog 🙂

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      1. Indah Susanti Avatar

        Thank you so much Mabel, you are so kind! I always enjoy your visit too and you always leave great comments! Keep us update with your book, I will wait patiently to read your book in the meantime 🙂

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          It is still a while til my first book will be done. I feel that I rambled a lot in it reading back the first draft. But at least I have something to work with. Thank you, Indah. So kind 🙂

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  45. Tina Schell Avatar

    You know Mabel, one thing I love, and hate, about your blog is the number of comments you receive and how thoughtful they are. Of course that’s a reflection of the many thoughtful ideas you include in each post. i hate it because I simply cannot take the time to read them all but I do read many of them and enjoy them all. This post in particular struck a chord for me. Why Do we blog? It’s an opportunity for me to express thoughts through my photography. I never could draw or paint but the lens has given me a way to be creative, which is So good for the soul, don’t you think? And of course there is the reward for the feeling you get when you make that one shot that warms your heart. Thank you for making us think – and for taking the time to say it all so well! And oh by the way, as a quotation fanatic – great job on those this time too!

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      I really hate to admit it, but you are right 🙂 So many kind bloggers have been kind enough to leave a good piece of their mind on the topics written here. I’m beyond humbled that many read my posts the whole way through – they really are heavy, lengthy posts. And I am touched that you are one of them.

      Love how you see the world through your lens, Tina. Your wide variety of shots from birds to doors to scenery just goes to show what a versatile photographer you are – your creative eye seemingly always switched on. Certainly agree that creativity is good for the soul. It forces us to not only take a closer look at the world around us, but to experience it more deeply too.

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  46. Hugh's Views and News Avatar

    Congratulations on three years of blogging, Mabel.

    You pose an interesting question (for me anyway). I don’t find it hard to blog because I am so passionate about blogging. If I did not enjoy blogging or found it too stressful then I would throw in the towel and find something else to do. I’ve seen many wonderful bloggers come and go in my 18 months here on WordPress but am pleased to say that many leave blogging so that they can concentrate on writing that book. Some get ‘blog burnout’ and come crashing down because blogging becomes too time-consuming for them, and that is where becoming a good time manger comes in so that you can enjoy other parts of your life as well as the blogging side. As you know I’ve written a few posts about that.

    As for being creative, well I get my inspiration and ideas from people like you. Just reading your posts and looking at the photography you post gives me many ideas on what to write about.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Thank you for the well wishes, Hugh. I really admire you as a blogger and the way you engage with your readers – both on here and social media. It is a wonderful community there you have and you always serve up a great variety of content from blogging tips to fiction to snippets of your life. Love it.

      Blog burnout is indeed a reality. As harsh as it sounds, blogging isn’t a means to an end, and life is much more than blogging. Time management is certainly key to running an engaging blog with insightful, thought-provoking content.

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      1. Hugh's Views and News Avatar

        Thank you for your lovely comments about me and my blog, Mabel. I treat my blog like I would a living creature and I always treat my community with the respect and friendliness they deserve (just as you do). After all, if they have taken the time to read and comment on one of my posts then they deserve a response from me. Not answering comments is like inviting everybody to a party and ignoring them all.

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          “Not answering comments is like inviting everybody to a party and ignoring them all.” So well said. I’m always happy with a simple reply such as “Thank you” to my comments on other blogs. People who leave comments on (our) blog posts are like us, human after all and we all deserve a voice and deserve to be acknowledged.

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          1. Hugh's Views and News Avatar

            If I have nothing to say then I’ll hit the ‘like’ button on any comments left on any of my posts. That way the person who left the comment knows I have read their comment. This tends to happen when people say things like “Nice Post” or “Great Read”.

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              Very nice of you to acknowledge your commenters, Hugh. Really admire how you get back to all comments on your blog and comments you’ve left on other blogs. It’s hard work, and good on you.

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  47. Anna @ shenANNAgans Avatar

    This post is brilliant! I was nodding in agreement with everything you said. 🙂
    I do find it hard to blog and be creative sometimes, especially lately. With my health not being great, it was so difficult to muster the energy to get out of bed, let alone be up and creative and positive about my world online.

    As you know, I shared my struggles and a bunch of peeps have jumped in and are helping me get back on track with things. I get a lot from reading blogs like yours, and again I am feeling inspired me to get my creative on annnnnnd I am writing again too.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Health is wealth. It comes before everything and if we don’t have it, it is so hard to get up and about. But so glad you are getting inspiration from all of us here in the blog world. We are all here for you and the guest posts so far have been amazing.

      Blogging certainly is time consuming. But there is always more to life than blogging. Take care big sis. Rest well and chat soon ❤

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  48. Tresa's Art Avatar

    Is there something to be said about right and left brain comparisons? Creative on the right and math? Does one help to strengthen the other like with learning to play an instrument and learning a foreign languages. Grew up in a German family. Work hard, play later. My grandma always to referred to the little shack in the countryside as, “Tresa’s Artist House”, meaning I would be poor if I continue with an art career after college. Years later, she figured out that A Graphic Designer is actually a career.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      That is such a great point to bring up about the different sides of our brains. Often the key to being good at something is to work hard at it and practise.

      “Work hard, play later.” Such an interesting motto to live by, but it makes sense. Good on you for working for what you love and being an artist today 🙂

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          No worries. You’re certainly a force to be reckoned with, having made a career out of your artistic creativity 🙂

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  49. Holistic Wayfarer Avatar

    Blogging’s not hard. In fact, it’s become easier with experience – not that I’ve been out here as long as you. It’s just the resources (time, time, energy, time) I am short on. Congrats on your milestone, M. I can see your growth as a person and blogger and how you’ve pushed past certain fears to explore new ground.

    Xxx
    D.

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      Certainly time is of the essence. But whenever you make time to blog, it’s always such a meaningful post. It seems you never run out of topics to write – something which I can probably learn from you ❤

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  50. lifeconfusions Avatar

    This was such a coherent and perfectly written article Mabel. I always admire how every word you write seem to find it’s perfect place in the sentence and paragraph. That’s the thing about creativity, sometimes it flows and floods like a dam has been broken while sometimes it’s as dry as a drought in the desert. I can totally understand your perspective and the struggle. 🙂

    The funny thing about creativity with me is that it comes to me at all the unexpected places, like for example when I have exams ! 😀 That’s the time when creativity Gods seem to have their blessings on me, wonder why’s that ! LOL

    P.S As always I’m in awe of your photography ! Those photos are breathtakingly beautiful !! ❤

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    1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

      You summed up creativity so well, Zee. I can totally see you writing a book one day. Perhaps one about poetry. Or one about inspiration. You certainly have a way with words and express emotion wonderfully through them 🙂

      I hope you do jot down those creative ideas when they hit. I am lazy, and don’t and then regret it and can’t remember what the ideas were 😀 Thank you so much for your nice words. So encouraging, and you don’t know how much I appreciate it ❤

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      1. lifeconfusions Avatar

        Oh please, you are too kind Mabel, you are the one who is a natural born writer, you write so beautifully and coherently, considering every aspect of writing. I just shoot in the air, no target no nothing and take whatever comes as a result. You are the one who is immensely talented! Wish you all the best for your upcoming book ❤

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        1. Mabel Kwong Avatar

          Oh Zee, you are so kind. This is probably as good as my blogging and writing will get, so I’m enjoying each moment. Thank you so much. You are lovely and have a big heart ❤

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          1. lifeconfusions Avatar

            So do you Mabel, much love your way ❤ ❤

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